|Gift ideas for the GF please....||african|
Dec 16, 2003 2:28 PM
|ok I suck at this time of the year. If I had it my way, there would be no tree in my house no gifts and all. Ok..... anyway the GF says this Xmas is a big test, I need help as in gift ideas cause I suck at what to get....
Any suggestions appreaciated...... (she is a nurse and a runner, early 30's)
|sounds like she wants a ring (nm)||ColnagoFE|
Dec 16, 2003 2:38 PM
|I thought Christmas was the celebration of the birth of Christ. .||czardonic|
Dec 16, 2003 2:54 PM
|. . .or something. Or at least the season where 'tis better to give than to recieve.
Turn the tables on the Big Tester. Make her a card.
|How 'bout some nice beads :O)||Live Steam|
Dec 16, 2003 3:00 PM
|If you want to score points this is the time of year to do so. A gift says how much you know, understand and care for about the person you are buying it for. So, if you have been paying attention to your significant other(?) you will know what they like, dislike and desire.
First off - small, inexpensive gifts that show how much you pay attention to her on a daily basis, really grease the skids to the heart. The type of perfume she wears is an easy start. Does she wear pajamas? If so what type? Does she like animals? If so, maybe some trinkets that have her favorite type as the theme - think stuffed animals, porcelain animals, a card with that pet or animal as the focus. How about favorite movies and or books? Small first. Lots of them. Sort of like filler before the big one. They love opening presents - at least the women I have had in my life. And I have to say they don't have to be expensive. They just have to show you care because you paid attention and know what is of interest to them. An example from me is my wife, as many women do, wraps her hair in a towel after she gets out of the shower. I was browsing through a store in the mall and came across these terrycloth wraps for the head. They had a design that made them much easier to put on and had a specially designed closure. She love d them. Inexpensive, yet it showed I paid attention to her on a certain intimate level that others would know.
One biggies is always appreciated. If you are serious, but "Not that serious" a nice watch is good. So is other jewelry, but it's more difficult to get a handle on that - unless you can see she has distinct likes. Dislikes are more difficult to discern if she hasn't said as much, ie. she doesn't like gold or silver or wearing earrings. Some leather or fur is also a good way to go - in the form of a coat or jacket. This takes some guts. You need to really have been paying attention for this. How about a handbag? This is one of the more difficult items to choose for a woman. I learned the hard way on this one. They have very distinct preferences in style, design, materials and construction. The length and type of handle or strap, the closure system, the size, the shape and many more criteria go into such a selection. Success with this and she will know you are tuned into her :O)
Ah, just give her some beads man :O) Just kidding. Good luck and I hope the Live Steam handbook of Shopping for Women, helps!
|listen to LS....||kidrn|
Dec 16, 2003 3:59 PM
|That does sound like good advice||Fr Ted Crilly|
Dec 16, 2003 5:29 PM
|So good I'm begining to think that Live Steam is actually a woman! :-)|
|got mine a yakima roof rack (fingers crossed)...||FTMD|
Dec 16, 2003 3:06 PM
|......sorry this doesn't help your plight, tho.|
|Now that's romantic don't you think?||Live Steam|
Dec 16, 2003 3:14 PM
|Well I'm sure you know her and know what she may need, but women don't always want what they need. Sometimes they need something frivolous that shows you care. Hope things work out for you buddy!|
|Now that's romantic don't you think?||FTMD|
Dec 17, 2003 8:40 AM
|Hey...she's been wanting one for 6 months, and everytime we're in the LBS or REI, she's over at the racks checking them out. I've had this for about 3 months now, and I had to use every excuse in the book to keep her from buying the kit back around Thanksgiving. "But honey, it'd be silly to buy a rack now, it's just going to get snowed on and you would't use it till the spring anyway."
I'm gambling, but think I have a pretty good hand.
|Then that is truly a thoughtful gift. She will ...||Live Steam|
Dec 17, 2003 8:47 AM
|know how much you have paid attention and cared. You can probably uncross your fingers :O) Have a great holiday!|
|Nice rack! I hope it fits you...||Dale Brigham|
Dec 17, 2003 11:49 AM
|...just in case you end up wearing it.
Seriously, I bet she'll love it.
Good Luck, Bro!
Dale (Now worried about the gifts I have gotten for my wife)
|If you really don't know, you are in trouble . . .||ms|
Dec 16, 2003 3:19 PM
|Assuming that you have been seeing the GF for some time (as opposed to a GF that you just met last month), the Christmas present is a gauge of what you think about the relationship and where it is going (or at least that is how the GF will look at it). It has nothing to do with Christmas. If she is looking for a commitment, it is ring time. If, on the other hand, she doesn't want a commitment and likes the status quo, then you have to get her something that fits in with her interests. This is a minefield. Good luck.|
|What about the girlfriend of just over a month?||Fr Ted Crilly|
Dec 16, 2003 5:27 PM
|Don't really know her all that well and nothing serious just yet, so I'm thinking a few inexpensive, practical items that I think she'd like or need - CDs, DVD, calander - that sort of thing. I don't mind paying more, but I don't want to scare her off by getting her too much. Or maybe I do need to go a bit over the top to show I care? Any comments?|
|From a woman's perspective :O)||Live Steam|
Dec 16, 2003 5:50 PM
|I would follow your initial thought and not go too over the top. Since it's not serious, something simple but thoughtful would serve you well. CDs and the other stuff is not appropriate for adults and lovers in the early stages of a relationship. That's just my opinion of course :O) If she wears perfume and you can identify it, that is a good start. Add some flowers or a really nice plant and romantic card, and you have something there. A romantic dinner, either one you cook or at a decent restaurant is also very good. Let the card and the moment say how much you care. You could always add something like a nice pair of gloves too. If things proceed further, you can make her birthday more special. CDs and DVDs? What the heck were you thinking man?|
|What is wrong with CDs?||czardonic|
Dec 16, 2003 6:17 PM
|A CD could easily reflect an interest in and/or knowledge of the recipient.
It is the thought that counts. Virtually anything could be an appropriate gift, depending on the recipient and what a thoughtful person would know about their tastes and interests.
|CDs are passionless||Live Steam|
Dec 16, 2003 6:45 PM
|Well unless they went to see John Tesh together or something like that, and she expressed an interest in the music. CDs are a pretty cheesy gift to give a relatively new lover. They are rather sterile the way they are wrapped and sealed. She might think he is a member of the CD of the Month Club and is trying to get rid of the CDs he doesn't want. The calendar isn't bad, but it would have to be only part of the gift.|
|context man, context!||dr hoo|
Dec 17, 2003 5:28 AM
|If you have her over for drinks, or dessert, or a meal you can play a CD. If she likes it, give it to her and say it is, "so you can think of today when you play it".
I recommend Andres Segovia, classical guitar.
In this case the small item becomes part of the larger experience.
Scarves are nice too. Women seem to have lots of uses for silk scarves for some reason. Now if you weave SCARVES into your evening, I don't want to hear about it!
|Maybe you lack passion for music.||czardonic|
Dec 17, 2003 10:31 AM
|Personally, I can't think of anything more cheesy and passionless than a porcelain animal or pair of gloves -- those are the types of things I might give an older female relative. Where is the passion in giving someone yet another bottle of perfume that they already own?
What is passionless about -- just an example scenario -- tracking down a rare release by an artist that your "lover" (cringe) is passionate about? I am not talking about snagging the current number one seller at Best Buy.
|What about the girlfriend of just over a month?||bic|
Dec 18, 2003 5:31 PM
|Can ya cook? If so cook a great meal with all the extras. Candles, wine, etc. Something you might only get at a fancy rest. Or something she can do with her girl friends. I once bought tickets to a concert for my girl friend and three of her friends. She loved it. Something she never expected and no one had ever done before. A weekend away at a nice B and B. If your at that stage in your relationship. Or maybe just for her, a chance to get away and relax.|
|How about a remote control??||Dave Hickey|
Dec 17, 2003 7:10 AM
|Ya I know, I'm a pig......|| |