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This comment bugs me for some reasonjrm
Nov 18, 2003 8:05 AM
I though i wanted to get to know this person better. Then over a drink last night she sez " i fall for sensitive guys who end up gay or are gay but dont know it". Then goes on to say 'all men have agenda's whether they know it or not"

Talk about a instant 180. Kinda dissapointed..
Run away!!! Run far away!!!! She hasn't had enough ...Live Steam
Nov 18, 2003 8:14 AM
therapy yet. She may never have enough therapy to get over what ever it was that put her in that frame of mind.
are you a sensitive guy with an agenda?ColnagoFE
Nov 18, 2003 8:16 AM
Did you ask her to clarify what she meant? It might have been a illuminating conversation. While that is kind of a sexist comment she made, it might be more of a defensive posture on her part--having been hurt too many times by these kinds of men. Would have been interesting to see what she thought your agenda was in any event.
Hmmm? The male agenda? Hmmm?Live Steam
Nov 18, 2003 8:23 AM
You know maybe she wanted you to prove your manhood to assure her you aren't gay ;O)
The male agenda? Well DUH?PaulCL
Nov 18, 2003 8:59 AM
First date, second date?? The male agenda is always the same. Unless, of course, she is right and she only dates guys who are gay or are gay and don't know it yet. In that case, I'd be scared, real scared!

Either way - take the advice above and RUN. Just as fast as you can.
The male agenda? Well DUH?No_sprint
Nov 18, 2003 9:02 AM
No doubt, run away! Sounds like she's been tainted by some of the stooges in here!
Agenda for our next meeting followsDale Brigham
Nov 18, 2003 11:53 AM
Male Agenda:

I. Welcome and Introductions

II. Review of Minutes from the Previous Meeting

III. Tryin' ta' Get Laid

IV. Gettin' Laid

V. Gettin' Hitched

VI. Watchin' Football

VII. Beer and Salty Snacks

VIII. Next Meeting Dates and Adjourn
You forgot a couplePaulCL
Nov 19, 2003 12:22 PM
V a) Bichin' about bein' married
b) Scopin' da chicks we'll never get
c) Claiming we coulda had aforementioned 'chick' if we weren't married
How'd she know you were gay?Cory
Nov 18, 2003 9:12 AM
No, actually what I meant was, "If you like her otherwise and you let a single remark chase you off, maybe you're going to miss out on something. We all say stupid things occasionally."
But I'm guessing she turns out to be WAY more trouble than she's worth, and that the root of the problem is self-centeredness. You read it here first.
One possibility...Fez
Nov 18, 2003 9:30 AM
Maybe this was her way of getting rid of you. Not all women do the breaking up. Sometimes they just say stuff that they may or may not mean just so YOU will get turned off.

That's one possiblity. Another is that she may be crazy.
Thought of that one toojrm
Nov 18, 2003 10:26 AM
I work with this person and only showed possible interest after i sensed a possible interest on her part after spending some time with her alone.
Nov 19, 2003 6:53 AM
You could spend a little more time with her and see where its going.

She could have been a little tipsy when she said that one. If she says another similar comment, it may be time to bail.
The correct reply is: Hey, I'm sensitive....., but not THAT....MR_GRUMPY
Nov 18, 2003 9:33 AM
sensitive. Why don't you and me go back to my place and check out that theory of yours. We'll also discuss that "agenda" thing.
it shouldmohair_chair
Nov 18, 2003 9:43 AM
She seems to know a lot about what men don't know about themselves. Or at least what she thinks she knows about what they don't know. I'll bet if you pursue her, you'll end up with enough pearls of great wisdom like this to make a necklace.

I think it is a huge flashing neon sign when she says "I fall for sensitive guys who end up gay or are gay but dont know it." What that really means is that she seeks them out, because she's afraid of either commitment or intimacy or both. She's not going to get too deep into a relationship with a gay man, and that's the point.

Personally, I'd leave this one alone. But you should continue, because it gives us something to talk about here other than politics.
That's a man, baby! (nm)53T
Nov 18, 2003 10:09 AM
LOL! Great stuff! nmNo_sprint
Nov 18, 2003 2:04 PM
Maybe she's a stereotyping "fhag-hag"?128
Nov 18, 2003 10:22 AM
Slang, non-pejorative: "A hetero woman who prefers the company of gay men."
is there a male version of that term?dr hoo
Nov 18, 2003 10:25 AM
For guys that like to hang out with lesbians? I've always wondered. I suppose "homophile" would work, but I wonder about the existance of a slang term, and if there isn't one, why?
You ask the tough questions128
Nov 18, 2003 11:01 AM
I want to say John, but it keeps sounding more like sadistic mthrfkn sob. Kidding.

I have no idea. But I'm pretty sure lesbians aren't as into grouppies as the boys. No sattelite members for them. :)
Don't think there would be that many of themColnagoFE
Nov 18, 2003 11:05 AM
I have plenty of lesbian friends who are a blast to be around and are great people, but I can't imagine why a single heterosexual male would want to hang out with them "exclusively" unless they were gay themselves or had an inordinate fear of relationships in general.
I'd tell her, "Well, I do have a thing for wearing lycra... " nmStarliner
Nov 18, 2003 10:43 AM
Any statement that begins with "all men" ...PdxMark
Nov 18, 2003 10:55 AM
likely points to issues she has as much as it might reasonably summarize any defects we all share.

Since she opened the sterotyping game, how old is she? Has she ever been married? Any other characteristics we can draw on to see if she reinforces any stereotypes?
Double up on the condoms,Crankist
Nov 18, 2003 11:38 AM
the risks seem high.
Sounds like a "Magic 8 Ball" answer. lol. nm128
Nov 18, 2003 11:44 AM
Reply: "Man how do you get so lucky???SpecialTater
Nov 18, 2003 12:02 PM
I've been searching high and low for a couple of interested lesbians!"

Ok I'm a pig.