Nov 3, 2003 9:50 AM
|I have worked with this person for about 2 years now. He's disabled and plays it will. he takes advantage of people generosity and sympathy by being demanding and dictative. he's also a recovered alcoholic and born again christian. I have nothing in common with this guy at all. he's annoying to say the least but at the same time i feel the need to be nice. ill do stuff to help him out from time to time.
Ive done some stuff with him outside of work. I helped him move and we travelled together once for training in another city. After some events that took place that week i began to distance myself from him.
Now if he reconizes me in the hall, in the proximity of his cube he'll call out my name. Regardless if im talking to someone either casually or if its business. Last week he asked me to a BBQ at this house. i told him i had a lot of things to do over the weekend but might swing by if i have the time. So on the morning of the BBQ he calls me a 9 am. Thinking it was my dad i picked up and he's 20 questioning me about coming ot his BBQ.
Needless to say i blew the BBQ that afternoon after getting his phone call. i told him i had a lot of stuff to do. i don't think i should have to talk to him about his behavior. For gods sake hes an adult and older than i am. Does anyone have a suttle but firm ways that i can get this person to keep things on no more than a co-worker level?
|re: Annoying Co-Worker||african|
Nov 3, 2003 9:58 AM
|tell him you gay.
tell him you homophobic. (if he is gay)
tell him your wife says you guys can't hang out.
tell him you have an itchy rash.
tell him you have a social disorder.
look at his daughter in a lecherous way.
my favorite... let the air out of his wheels (if he is in a wheel chair).
|Ignore him||Fr Ted Crilly|
Nov 3, 2003 10:06 AM
|Ignore him, and he'll eventually get the hint. Everyone working in a large office probably comes across someone like this. Don't encourage him, (it sounds like you're not). Keep any responses to his questioning as brief as possible, and he'll probably get bored. He may well gossip to others that you're ignoring him, and don't seem very friendly, but if you were to actually come right out and tell him to stop annoying you then he'll probably tell everyone else about the conversation and make it out as if you were verbally abusing him.|
Nov 3, 2003 10:23 AM
|There is only one solution. Next time he asks you to do anything, just say politely "Thank you, I'm sorry, but I have other plans." Be firm, avoid details, and don't discuss it. If he asks "what plans," don't even answer the question. Just say "I hope your BBQ goes well. Excuse me," then walk away.
Don't ever try to come up with details, because you just dig yourself into a hole. And don't ever hint "maybe some other time" or you "might come by." He'll hold you hostage if you do. If he persists, you need to repeat, as many times as necessary, "I'm sorry, I can't make it."
Don't think you have to make up an original reply, either. Every time he invites you to do something, say "Thank you, I'm sorry, but I have other plans." He might just catch on after a year or two.
|I agree (and get caller ID ;-) nm||DougSloan|
Nov 3, 2003 11:38 AM
Nov 6, 2003 6:37 AM
|Agreed, that is the stuff that works.
Most effective key word is "impossible" e.g.: "Impossible, I'm busy then (Jerkwad)".
|Warn him that the voices are telling you to do bad things.||MR_GRUMPY|
Nov 3, 2003 1:18 PM
|If nothing else works, ............... Just kill him.|| |