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Can the women here help me w/a birthday gift question?(23 posts)

Can the women here help me w/a birthday gift question?FTMD
Jul 14, 2003 11:02 AM
The woman that I am seeing is turning 30 next week. We haven't been together very long, but I still would like to buy her something(s) nice for the occasion. Given that we have only been seeing each other for a few short weeks, I feel like I'm somewhat limited into what I can buy.

She's into cycling and health generally. We got into a discussion of bodyfat somehow and it eventually got around to good scales, etc. I'd like to buy her a Tanita bf scale, but am a little worried about what her reaction might be, you know, if she's going to read into the gift something that's totally not there. So, you are a female athlete who takes care of yourself, would receiving a bodyfat monitor be akin to getting pots and pans or would your mind just not go there?

Stupid question I know, but this is about the only gift idea I have right now and I don't want to flub this up. Thanks!
You think there are women here? (nm)TJeanloz
Jul 14, 2003 11:06 AM
re: Can the women here help me w/a birthday gift question?jtolleson
Jul 14, 2003 12:02 PM
Every woman is different but in general I'd recommend NOT taking the risk of a bf scale. You can give her a fitness related device such as a high-end HRM without the same "baggage" methinks.
Come on, FTMD....94Nole
Jul 14, 2003 12:24 PM
you can't buy a BF scale for a woman. Go ahead and get the scale for yourself (because if the truth were known, you probably want to give it to her so that you can use it).

The gift should be something personal - just for her. Not something that anyone who walks in can use.

HR monitor, cyclocomputer, etc.
Ha...already have one for myself, so no. (nm)FTMD
Jul 14, 2003 12:56 PM
not a female, but...Fender
Jul 14, 2003 12:25 PM
How about a gift certificate to a store that sells such scales?

Or flowers and dinner. chicks like that. msot women would be content with the fact that you remembered.
You started off strong and then did a switchback and lost itKristin
Jul 14, 2003 12:38 PM
The gift certificate idea is awesome! No, we aren't content with the fact the you simply remembered. We just take what we can get is all... dork! :-\
whoa Kristin!!!Fender
Jul 15, 2003 7:50 AM
hey back off Kristin!!! I only meant the last part as a joke. I sorry it did not come across that way!!
Oh my, you've watched too many sitcomsKristin
Jul 14, 2003 12:35 PM
That's such a stereo type. I don't know many women who really run off crying when they perceive that someone is suggesting they are overweight. I don't know your girl, only you do, so you must ask yourself if she seems like the type that would get sensitive over something like this. Just think back to your past experience.

Gosh, if I'd been talking to my boyfriend about wanting a BF scale and he bought me one, I'd be impressed. I like thoughtful gifts that give evidence that he's actually listens when we converse. Its not like she's 40 pounds overweight, lives on the sofa and you've been pushing her to ride. I bet she'd like it.

My bigger advice is to not spend more than $50. I know its tough sometimes. You have a good idea and really want to do it. But buying an expensive gift in a new relationship can scare the other person. Then again, I have a friend in NZ who bought his girlfriend of 3 months a diamond necklace, then got earings and a bracelet to go with it. I was really worried that she'd freak and run, but they're still going strong, so hey. Bottom line. Only you can know what's best. I wouldn't overanalyze it though.
those Tanitas dont work well for women anywayColnagoFE
Jul 14, 2003 12:48 PM
buy her some roses and a good dinner. always a good choice.
Now see, thats exactly the kind of cleche gift I'd hate. nmKristin
Jul 14, 2003 1:18 PM
I did say "most women"ColnagoFE
Jul 14, 2003 3:00 PM
i'll stand by the roses and dinner as liked by "most women". am i totally off base? though i can force it, i'm not really the mushy romantic type but I always thought that flowers and dinner was a pretty safe bet. then again i might be out of touch with the current dating scene too.
Oh my, you've watched too many sitcomsFTMD
Jul 14, 2003 1:00 PM
$50.00 for a milestone birthday? Can you say cheapa**?

I hear you though. Also, my 30th is 11 days later, and I don't want to blow a ton of $ and make her feel obligated.
I'll figure something else out.

Thanks everyone.
I could be wrong about the amountKristin
Jul 14, 2003 1:20 PM
$25 is still the amount of a wedding gift per attendee, so I use that as a jumping off point. There are factors of course. You may run in a weathier crowd than I do. Then $50 wouldn't be quite enough. Listen to the force Luke, it will guide you...
I could be wrong about the amountFTMD
Jul 14, 2003 1:26 PM I run in a broke as a joke crowd. But I admit I tend to overdo weddings and birthdays. Okay...I've taken up enough board space with this. Thanks again.
Just get her some shocks for her car, she'll love it.......MR_GRUMPY
Jul 14, 2003 12:52 PM
Another way to make points is to tell her that "since she's over the hill now, she should think about hooking up with a guy before she really gets old".
Trust me, this will solve all of your problems.
my dad bought my mother a lawnmower for her b-day onceColnagoFE
Jul 15, 2003 8:30 AM
let's just say it didn't go over well. ;)
oooo, ouch! That is an interesting b'day gift for the lady nmrwbadley
Jul 15, 2003 8:41 AM
Sure, go ahead with the BFMStarliner
Jul 14, 2003 1:41 PM
Maybe then she'll get you a set of weights for your birthday coming up. Then you can wonder if she wants you to keep toned up, or really to add some muscle to your scrawny frame.
The answer IS ...OldEdScott
Jul 15, 2003 9:41 AM
gift certificate to a 'day spa' for a massage, a mudbath, herbal body wrap, whatever she desires. It's personal without being specific -- she gets to choose, within the context you've given her. But it's still a personal, romantic context. Plus you can set the price you feel comfortable with
Day Spasnapdragen
Jul 15, 2003 5:45 PM
Day Spakidrn
Jul 16, 2003 6:47 PM
!!!!!!!!!!!DEFINITLEY DAY SPA!!!!!!!!!!!!
I believe the women have spoken. nmOldEdScott
Jul 17, 2003 4:45 AM