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Valentine's Day: I need suggestions...Ladies..Husbands???(37 posts)

Valentine's Day: I need suggestions...Ladies..Husbands???PaulCL
Feb 10, 2003 7:17 PM
As much as I would love to disregard this "Hallmark" holiday, I cannot. I have grown tired of the standard: card, candy and flowers. I'm looking for original ideas of what I can give to my wife. Any inspiration out there??

I've done the weekend away (her birthday), the night without the kids (for me!!), I just need something new and fresh but not over-the-top expensive.

Thanks. Paul

P.S. I'm so sorry that this post has nothing to do with Iraq, Iran, Bush, Saddam, the French, the Germans, the Saudis, 'warmongering', pacifism, or hangnails. These subjects (OK,not the hangnails) seem to dominate this board. Its' good to change the subject occasionally.
re: Valentine's Day: I need suggestions...Ladies..Husbands???Skip
Feb 10, 2003 8:02 PM
A romantic hot air balloon ride over the country side with a very nice bottle of champaigne, brie, fresh strawberries, french bread, chocolate, etc.
I would consider that over the top expensiveColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 6:51 AM
Lets see...non-static line ballon ride over the countryside at least $4-500. Nice champagne...$25...brie...$5...strawberries...another $3...french bread...$2...good chocolate $10...tip for the balloon dude...probably $20-30. You're easily talking $600 here. Sounds like a good plan if you are going to propose though! A bit pricey for those of us whose house needs a new floor this spring.
What?? It does not cost that muchKristin
Feb 11, 2003 11:12 AM
In Fox Valley you can go for a 1-2 hour ride (not private) for about $60. Private I'm guessing would run $200, though you still must take the pilot along. I can't imagine paying $4-500/ride unless you were going across the state or something.
I was just guessing--still it would not be that cheap (nm)ColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 11:19 AM
I would consider that over the top expensivenn23
Feb 11, 2003 1:41 PM
ballon ride over the countryside at least $4-500.
Nice champagne...$25...
strawberries...another $3...
french bread...$2...
good chocolate $10...
tip for the balloon dude...probably $20-30

the glint in her eyes .... priceless!
Have you ever been in a HOT air balloon??? (bonus trivia)Kristin
Feb 11, 2003 11:09 AM
LOL. Its hotter than hell! Okay, it was kinda fun. But it was REALLY HOT too. Okay Trivia time:

What is the correct term used to describe landing a hot air balloon? Why is it called this?
Have you ever been in a HOT air balloon??? (bonus trivia)PaulCL
Feb 11, 2003 12:09 PM
My wife and I did a hot air balloon ride in Napa Valley a few years ago. Our landing was better called: CRASH We landed in a tree. It wasn't hot either. We went up at 5am - it was cool a beautiful.

Our pilot told us of a couple who rented the entire 24 person balloon. While they were up, the couple decided to get...ahem...amorous. Right next to him! As he found out later, it was part of a bet that they won as he had to be a sworn witness. Too much!
LOL, I didn't mean hot outside. I meant hot in the balloonKristin
Feb 11, 2003 1:13 PM
We went up in the evening and saw a really well structured supercell grow over O'Hare airfield. I don't know how many types of baskets are out there, but ours was a 6 basket rig and you were pretty much right next to the blower. So whenever the pilot fueled the baloon, I felt like a shish-ka-kristin. My face was so dry for days after that. It was nice when he wasn't "fueling" the baloon though.

Crashing is a good word to describe landing a hot air balloon, but that's not the technical term for it.
Have you ever been in a HOT air balloon??? (bonus trivia)Skip
Feb 11, 2003 12:11 PM
Actually, "lighter than air" aircraft is one category that I have neither piloted, nor ridden in. Is that an offer? the landing of the balloon is called a landing, but the capture and securing, I believe, is called mooring or masting.
Nope - Its not called a landingKristin
Feb 11, 2003 1:07 PM
Its not call landing. Its called something else. I'll see if there are more takers before I answer this.
Okay, stop twisting my arm. I'll tell youKristin
Feb 12, 2003 7:04 AM
Geez, the enthusiasm is killing me! Well, I thought this was a fun piece of trivia. On our trip we had a very talkative pilot who explained everything to us--which I really enjoyed. I bet I'm nearly qualified to pilot one after riding with this guy. We crash landed too, but thankfully missed all the trees. We touched down in someones lawn, hopped a curb, slid across the road, hopped another curb and settled in someone elses lawn.

Committing. That's what they call it when you land a hot air balloon. And that's a very good word--though crashing comes in a close second. Basically, the pilot must decide (after guessing at wind speed, direction and altitude) when to pull the plug out of the balloon. Once the that's been done, there's no turning back. You crouch down in the basket and hope for the best.

My favorite part about the ride was watching all the neighborhood kids. We flew low over a residential community and picked up this trail of children running after the balloon. After we "committed" and were on the ground the kids got to help pack the balloon it in its sack and help load it onto the chase vehicle. Do you think the parents of those children got a moments peice before taking thier own balloon ride?
lets see...rockbender
Feb 11, 2003 12:55 AM
My GF and I both get a bit irritated with the commercialization of V-day, so we like to make each other gifts. Past ideas include a snow saw, pulk sled, pottery, etc. She also made me a cute coupon book one year... I probably don't need to go into details about what the coupons could be redeemable for!

Seriously, its amazing what little cheezy things you can get away with if they are a bit creative or you do them yourself, vs. buying a box of chocolates. It works for us at least (although I am blessed to have someone who gets excited about snow saws and bike parts with 'Dura Ace' or 'XTR' on them!)
Come on...let us know what the coupons were for....PaulCL
Feb 11, 2003 7:08 AM
...just kidding. I can guess.

Good ideas from everyone. Regrettfully, I don't have time to make anything. Instead of a romantic dinner out - which we do all the time - maybe a cooking class. We both like to cook and it's "we" time.

Thanks for the ideas...anymore would still be appreciated. Paul
How about just a nice dinner out?ColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 6:47 AM
My wife and I agreed no presents this year. Instead we are getting a sitter and having a night out away from the kids. For us that is better than any card, candy (both are on diets anyway) jewelry or doodad.
Dinner outKeeponTrekkin
Feb 11, 2003 6:50 AM
We are a little "into" food so favorite, special and new restaurants are good for special occasions. Many also offer special menus for VD. Make your reservations early...

P.S., like that coupon book suggestion....
re: Valentine's Day: I need suggestions...Ladies..Husbands???jaybird
Feb 11, 2003 9:01 AM
Instead of going out, how about getting a chef to come to your house and make a gourmet dinner? I am sad to say that the Anna Nicole show gave me that idea... If you live in a large city it shouldnt be that tough to find someone.

Otherwise a shiny new C-40 is your only option.
Romance on the cheapFunston
Feb 11, 2003 9:42 AM
Make up a bunch of little valentines, each one with something nice to say about her from your heart, and hide them all around your house for her to find them...

Similar to above, but make it more of a treasure hunt, with each valentine directing her to another, until she gets to the final place where she'll find......... (fill in the blank)
OOH That's goodPaulCL
Feb 11, 2003 10:07 AM
The treasure hunt....I like that. Maybe the final prize could be something we both enjoy....say...hmmmm....from Victoria's Secret????
corny, but it just might work ;)(nm)ColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 10:10 AM
I like the way you're thinking, Paulrockbender
Feb 11, 2003 10:38 AM
NOW we're talking! Can't go wrong with just about anything from VS - plus it means you get to go shopping there. I swear, that is one of the best smelling places in the world.
Feb 11, 2003 12:51 PM
Here's a good resource for helping you make some of her lusty dreams come (!) true
Feb 11, 2003 4:25 PM
That must be a good sight, 'cause my "family-friendly" search engine wouldn't take me to that sight.
Add a twistKristin
Feb 11, 2003 1:15 PM
Create the coupons on heart shaped note cards and hide them around the house with hints of where others can be found. Give her 20 minutes to find as many as she can. Then tease her with the ones she didn't find---or tell her whats left over you get to redeem from her.
I make dinnerDougSloan
Feb 11, 2003 10:25 AM
I shop, make dinner, and clean up. Usually go to a gourmet grocer and buy surf and turf, plus some usual and unusual appetizers and sides. Bottle of Moët, too.

The shopping and cleaning seem to be the most appreciated parts, though.

Cars and jewelry work.

Wouldn't work for me--I do that most every day anywayColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 11:22 AM
both of us work during the day and I'm a better cook that she is and actually enjoy the cooking process (she would agree BTW)
Sounds just like my house..including the spousal confirmationPaulCL
Feb 11, 2003 12:10 PM
one other point about dinner at home if you have kidsColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 11:23 AM
Maybe you could pull it off with a baby, but with older kids (especially toddlers) it's nearly impossible to pull off a romantic dinner at my experience anyway.
isn't that what Tylenol PM is for?DougSloan
Feb 11, 2003 1:21 PM
just kidding ;-)
lots and lots of wine helps too! ;) (nm)ColnagoFE
Feb 11, 2003 1:36 PM
For the kids or for the adults?Kristin
Feb 12, 2003 6:49 AM
Give em a couple Tylonol PM and a glass of Merlot. Nice quiet evening. (Don't worry, I'm not a parent and have no intentions.) ;-)
adults of course... ;) (nm)ColnagoFE
Feb 12, 2003 7:09 AM
Check out Bath and Body Works. . .js5280
Feb 11, 2003 3:16 PM
Most women love that stuff (scented lotions, bubble bath, candles, etc.) and things like massage lotions can be fun for both. Plus that lotion makes their skin nice and soft and smells good. They have nice pre-made gift baskets there or you can make your own. I've always been pleased by my purchases there and it's one gift that always seems to be appreachiated and used regularly.

I find the best thing to do with gifts is keep a list. People can never think of them on the spot, but if you listen, they drop hints ALL the time. Write them down!!!Best bonus points are when you get them that one thing they forgot they wanted. It shows that you care and listen all the time, not just around traditional gift giving times.

If you're an writer, tell her why and how you love her, not just say that you love her. Tell her why you fell in love with her in the first place and what you learned to love since you've been together. Do it separate from a greeting card, frame it if it's really good and willing to share it. I think it's good for children to see evidence of a loving relationship and they will carry on those qualities in their relationships. I think writing adds an extra touch and sometimes has more meaning than when spoken. How many women save their love letters (or wish they had)?

Last suggestion, get a book on improving your relationship. How many of us buy and read endless books on improving our career or cycling abilities, but have never picked up a book on improving your relationship. Can't that be improved upon? Be very careful with the topic, make sure it's recieved as an enhancement to your relationship, not as an indictment that something is wrong. Ideally something you both can read, share, experiment, and have fun with together. If you're embarrassed buying these types of books, Amazon/on-line is a great place to buy them. Also the reviews can be helpful to insure it's good and of interest to both men and women. There much more than Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus out there.
more ideasDougSloan
Feb 12, 2003 3:23 PM
To begin, surprise her with tickets to a Andrew Dice Clay performance. Then on the way, stop off at the local pool hall and shoot some pool while talking sports with your single buddies hanging out there, having a dozen shots of Wild Turkey with beer chasers served up by a scantily clad well-endowed trailer trash waitress, who you tip $50 as you leave. Then, show up late to the performance, stand in line for half an hour, then puke on her as you climb over 20 people to get to your seats. Feel free to chime in with lots of "right ons" as the Diceman proceeds to insult all women in every way possible. Then, stop off for free chips and $10 beers at the strip joint on the seedier side of town, where all the employees shout out your name as you enter the place. When you get home, mumble something like "I wuv ewe" as you attempt to take care of mr happy before you either puke again or pass out.

Well, you asked for something non-standard, right?

[name withheld]
Good idea...but I did that on my wedding dayPaulCL
Feb 13, 2003 6:34 AM
I don't want to do it again, less I be accused of having no imagination.

I finally took the easy way out. Since we are leaving town Friday afternoon for a weekend with the kids, romance is out of the question. I ended up buying some nice chocolates and two books on yoga and meditation. The meditation book came with a CD of music. I also included a homemade "gift certificate" for some time to relax and yoga-size.

Simple, but effective. I hate these dumb "Hallmark" holidays. So when the hell is "Sweetest Day"? I've got to have time to prepare. Paul
If the Andre Dice Clay thing doesn't workColnagoFE
Feb 13, 2003 9:46 AM
You can always take her bike shopping--for YOU!!!!! Imagine her joy that you included her in the process of buying yet another "neccesary" $5000+ bike for yourself instead of getting her some useless stuff like jewelry, relaxing massages, or yummy chocolates. (kidding if you hadn't noticed).

My wife and I are both on diets now so I think chocolate would actually be an insult. I think a card, dinner out without the kids, and a few kisses will be the extent of my presents. After all...we want to be able to afford that new hardwood floor upstairs this spring!
re: Valentine's Day: I need suggestions...Ladies..Husbands???ClydeTri
Feb 13, 2003 11:56 AM
Buy her a massage...any woman will enjoy this, especially if she is athletic