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what sage advice to young ones?DougSloan
Aug 27, 2002 11:43 AM
What would be your best advice to kids these days, your top tips for leading a good life?

sage advicemr_spin
Aug 27, 2002 11:59 AM
1. be faithful, courteous and kind
2. say what you mean, mean what you say
3. there are few shortcuts worth taking in life
4. don't spend money you don't have
5. take responsibility for your actions
Two things that have served me well.Sintesi
Aug 27, 2002 12:04 PM
When I worked at a gas station as a lad the manager would always tell me, "Son, just stick it in double, squirt side out and you'll never have any trouble at all."

The other:

"If it's worth doing, it's worth doing over."
As my Dad always saidPaulCL
Aug 27, 2002 12:13 PM
"If you're going to do something, do it right!" translated: Don't do a half-ass job regardless of the job.

And to my ten year old daughter who constantly feels like she got the short end: "Life isn't fair but all things even out in the end" She drives us nuts on this one. I think it a sympton of her age.
re: what sage advice to young ones?firstrax
Aug 27, 2002 12:38 PM
1)Hard work pays off in the end, laziness pays off now.

2)When you earnestly believe you can compensate for a lack of skill by doubling your efforts, there's no end to what you cant do.

3)If you never try anything new you will miss out on many of life's great disappointments.

More at
You have to get off your @$$ before you can get on your feet nmjose_Tex_mex
Aug 27, 2002 1:02 PM
Bwahahahaha, that's funny oh shit I think that applies to me. nmLeisure
Aug 28, 2002 11:24 PM
Be careful what you say...DINOSAUR
Aug 27, 2002 1:52 PM
Words have a big impact, don't say something out of haste or anger. Funny I was thinking along these lines this morning on my ride. My downfalls in life were made by saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to the wrong person. In other words, keep your mouth shut and your ears open. Also, smile a lot and be happy, life is short. Happiness is a state of mind, it's something that can't be purchased....
RIght on Dinopeloton
Aug 27, 2002 6:52 PM
'Keep you mouth shut and your ears open.'

My opinion is hardly sage, but anyway... I think this is great advice, and I couldn't agree with Dino any more. I've observed that those who LISTEN have the most to say when they choose to speak. Not many people listen. Most would rather hear their own voice, even if it has nothing to say. The best thing that I think anyone could do in any situation is to listen. Really listen, not just hear. I would also agree that most things that I have said when angry or emotional in some way haven't come across the way they were intended.

Aside from that, I would say-

-Believe in what you can do. It sounds cliche, but in some ways I wish I had believed more in my abilities earlier in life. If you really believe in yourself there are very few things you can't do.

-Be real. Don't say or do anything behind someone that you wouldn't say to that person's face. Be able to look at the person in the mirror at the end of the day.

-Understand that even if you have morals and are basically a good person, that some people aren't. Watch out for these people, and see them for what they are.

-Cold feet never got anyone anywhere. What do you have to lose? This could be sports, the opposite sex, or a job. Give it a go, and then you will know.
Great advise here.....Dave Hickey
Aug 28, 2002 6:29 AM
Words can do far more damage that physical abuse.
I don't know about sage but.......Len J
Aug 27, 2002 2:25 PM
Not being a custody parent of my 4 children I was forced to realize that (In addition to being a loving presence in their lives) if I wanted to have an impact on their character development, I would have to reduce things to something that I could consistantly apply & repeat at different ages & when dealing with different problems. These are my attempt at those things that I want them to live:

-Life is about choice. You are only a victim if you choose to be.

-The only thing that you have 100% control over are your own actions and your own choices. Any other control is an allusion. Do the best you can do & let go of the rest.

-Only you can erode your own integrity.

-Whenever you are making a choice, stop & think about what choice will make you feel better about you, and then choose it. Trust that internal compass.

-There is no such thing as failure, only not trying. You learn more from mistakes than you ever learn by not trying.

-Judging & Labeling says more about the person judging & labeling than about the person judged or labeled. What does it say about you?

-Care enough about yourself to preserve your integrity, do things that you know are right, and give your best effort. You are worth it.

Unplug the television (nm)RoyGBiv
Aug 27, 2002 2:42 PM
re: what sage advice to young ones?js5280
Aug 27, 2002 9:22 PM
Good advice for young and old alike. . .

bean; chicken; pasta

Soups & Stews
chicken; fish; minestrone; pea; potato; tomato; vegetable

Fish & Poultry
chicken; duck; goose; halibut; sole; turkey

beef; lamb; pork; rabbit; sausages; veal; venison

beets; Brussels sprouts; carrots; celery; eggplant; onions; peas; tomatoes; winter squash

Pasta, Grains, Dried Beans
bulghur; polenta; rice

Cheese & Egg Dishes
cheese spreads; egg salad; scrambles

butter; cheese; cream; meat

marinades; savory breads; stuffings
Yes. nmSintesi
Aug 28, 2002 5:03 AM
good stuffDougSloan
Aug 28, 2002 5:16 AM
Thanks; I'm going to collect this and dispense as needed. :-)

For young children in sports..................Dave Hickey
Aug 28, 2002 6:27 AM
4,5, or 6 year olds don't care if they win or lose. Also as a parent, don't try to fulfill your sports fantasies thru your children.
Say the opposite of what you really want them to do.Spinchick
Aug 28, 2002 8:16 AM
This works really well with toddlers and preschoolers. Probably with teenagers too.

Only half kidding, of course.
This is very true.Sintesi
Aug 28, 2002 9:56 AM
My friend's 4 year old niece wouldn't come in from the back yard to come eat. His sister kept calling and calling and Lucy, in a world of her own, just plain ignored her. My friend Terry gets up and says, "I'll get her to come in."

"Lucy! I'm locking the door so you can't get in!"

Lucy immediately drops everything and comes running.

We laughed our asses off.
This is very true.Spinchick
Aug 28, 2002 1:51 PM
We do a similar thing with our 4 yo. When she's pouting and whining, we make a big deal out of saying, "Now don't you DARE smile!" She, of course, bursts out laughing and the whining stops immediately.
It's all age dependent.phacops rana
Aug 28, 2002 12:32 PM
Sage advice, I am finding out real fast, depends on what stage/age they're in. Right now my 3 year old is in a "I don't want to!" and "I don't want it!" stage, to which I answer that what you want and what you get is not necessarily the same thing. This is, I hope, early preparation for understanding George Santayana's sage antimetabole: "Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have."
sage adviceTig
Aug 28, 2002 2:33 PM
For parents:

If you give your son or daughter only one gift, let it be enthusiasm.

Parents may tell, but will never teach
Until they practice what they preach.

In addition to the many fine things offered so far:

Life isn't fair.

Be true to yourself. Be yourself.

Beware of expectations. They will usually let you down.

Don't sweat the small stuff... Oh, it's ALL small stuff!

"Life" is a verb.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Life is 10% what happens to us, 90% how we react to it.

The key to failure is trying to please everybody.

No one has a finer command of language than the person who keeps his mouth shut.

Let the world know you as you are,
not as you think you should be,
because sooner or later, if you are posing,
you will forget the pose, and then where are you?
Mine is 'Get offa the dam computer and getta life' :-) nmrwbadley
Aug 28, 2002 3:54 PM
tell that to bill gates :-) nmColnagoFE
Aug 29, 2002 7:51 AM
Probably for teen yearsTypeOne
Aug 28, 2002 7:47 PM
I was thinking about this the other day (on a ride, no less) and I decided that when my daughter reaches her early teen years, I will tell her this: "No one ever made a good decision after drinking."
(Well, except I met my wife at a bar, but I am going to rewrite history if the subject ever comes up.)
my top fivejefajones
Aug 28, 2002 8:30 PM
1. education
2. humility
3. respect
4. consideration
5. "don't talk back to mom"
Some of the things I learned...Leisure
Aug 29, 2002 12:17 AM
Paraphrasing as appropriate to age:

"Hey, you're doing fine, just keep doing your best."

"No need to beat yourself up [over how you did it wrong], just keep trying to do better next time."

And once every long while:
"Straighten up guys, the adults need your leadership."

I work in a mental health facility, and used to work a lot with the child-inpatients before signing on full-time with adults. I think I learned a lot about what works and what doesn't in sticky situations, so I'm hoping it'll give me a head start at being a good parent if that day ever comes up. I guess time will have to tell.
re: what sage advice to young ones?Steve98501
Aug 29, 2002 12:27 PM
Character - is who you are when no one is looking.

The only people who never make mistakes are those who do nothing.

You'll always miss the shot you didn't take.

I always told my kids that I had them and kept them around for their entertainment value. So if I wasn't enjoying them, I knew that I needed to change my attitude or approach. By not taking myself too seriously, I hoped they wouldn't take themselves too seriously, either. I think it worked. They have high values, like to try most anything, and have become very high achievers.
here's one I just made upStarliner
Aug 29, 2002 1:16 PM
if the grass seems greener on the other side, maybe it's because your own yard isn't watered enough...

A while back I was a car salesman for part of a year, and my manager used to always say, "you'll never get what you want if you don't ask for it". Yet another phrase I've heard is "careful of what you ask for, because you might end up getting it". I think the first phrase must be for a Type B personality, and the second one for a Type A person.

Something you might want to get is a book on Aesop's Fables. They are fun and kid oriented with their imagery.
parenting adviceTig
Aug 29, 2002 3:32 PM
If you have a lot of tension and you get a headache, do what it says on the aspirin bottle: "Take two Aspirin" and "Keep away from children."

CHILDREN: You spend the first 2 years of their life teaching them to walk and talk.
Then you spend the next 16 telling them to sit down and shut-up.

Grandchildren are God's reward for not killing your children.

Mothers of teens know why some animals eat their young.

Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said.

The main purpose of holding children's parties is to remind yourself that there are children more awful than your own.

We childproofed our home 3 years ago and they're still getting in!

Be nice to your kids. They'll choose your nursing home.
re: what sage advice to young ones?Me Dot Org
Sep 3, 2002 7:55 AM
When you find yourself wanting something you can't have, give something to someone else.

The serenity prayer:

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."