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parents: potty training tips?JS Haiku Shop
Aug 8, 2002 5:36 AM
my little boy is 2 years 4 months old, and we're struggling to get him to respond to any potty training efforts.

what hints, suggestions, or anecdotes have ye?


They'll go when they are ready.Len J
Aug 8, 2002 6:01 AM
Generally my 4 went when they were ready. One was trained at 20 months, another 3 years.

We found that positive encouragement worked the best, cheering them when they did go, or didn't wet the diaper. We also found that each of them responded to different things. My oldest responded best to reasoning, my son to bribery, by youngest son to persistance (picking a std time every day to put him on the pot until he went) and my youngest just decided one day she was going to go & never wet a diaper again. The key was knowing each of them enough to know what would work.

One ancedote, My brother, who is 10 years younger than me, just wouldn't seem to ever go to the pot, he just wasn't interested, couldn't be bothered. When he was about 2 1/2 my Dad had had enough. He took him to a toy store and told him to pick out one toy that he really wanted. My brother picked a soda delivery truck & my Dad bought it. My brother was beaming. They got home and my Dad took the truck & put it on top of our Piano (in clear view from anywhere in the downstairs) & told my brother "When you go 2 days without messing a diaper, the truck is yours!" It took about 4 days, 1 to see if my Dad was serious, 1 to figure it out & 2 to stay clean, before he got the truck. Never messed again. Some kids just need a reason.

Agree with Len.MXL02
Aug 8, 2002 6:13 AM
Every kid is different. Some take longer than others. The key is to make it positive, and don't get frustrated if they don't respond. My son was 5 before he was completely trained. (not wearing pull-ups at night.)
Set out lots of newspapers on the floor!! ;-)rwbadley
Aug 8, 2002 6:52 AM
Nix the disposables/get cloth diapers or training pants.Spinchick
Aug 8, 2002 7:03 AM
Disposables don't let them feel when they're wet. As soon as I started putting my oldest in training pants (cotton undies), it took less than 2 weeks for her to start using the potty. She was 2 years, 5 months. This will only work if he's ready to do it and shows an interest in using the "big boy" potty. If he's not showing any interest, give it up for a few months and try again.
Second what Spinchick said, but that's pretty young...cory
Aug 8, 2002 7:33 AM
If you ask around, I think you'll find that 2 years and 4 months is awfully young, especially for a boy. My daughter was beginning to get it by that age, but my son didn't make it through the night reliably until he was almost 5. Friends with kids of both sexes also say the girls tend to be toilet trained before the boys.
I agree, too, that it's pretty much up to the kid--putting on a lot of pressure doesn't seem to help (NO PUNISHMENT for mistakes), and can cause some longer-term problems. When he's ready, he'll do it. Just let it happen. I promise you he won't be peeing in his pants when he starts kindergarten.
Another second,
Aug 8, 2002 7:52 AM
Two years, four months is young. Some things we faced with our daughters: 1. Regression: Our oldest was 2 years, nine months when our youngest was born. The oldest was "almost" trained. As soon as she saw the new kid in idapers getting attention toilet training regressed for several months. 2. Parental responsibility: When kids are in diapers, parents do not have to worry about readily available toilet facilities. When kids are in training, they can't hold it. Make sure that you are near toilet facilities when you are out of the house. Long walks and car trips can be a problem when they are getting the hang of it. It defeats your training to say in the car -- we can't stop, just go in your diaper or pull up. 3. Remind the kid to go to the bathroom: If kids visit the bathroom regularly, they usually can squeeze a little out, which prevents large buildups and accidents.
re: parents: potty training tips?phacops rana
Aug 8, 2002 8:31 AM
As cory especially said, 2y 4m can be a bit young. Every kid takes their own time. Our boy didn't really get the hang of it until he was 3y 2m (that was 2 months ago). You can be curious to see whether he is ready for it or not by experimenting, but don't push him and don't make it an issue. Throughout the process I have picked up some interesting insights into thgis whole potty training thing.
1. If the kid stays with grandparents a lot, that kid is going to take more time being potty trained.
2. Kids who are looked after at home and who do not have peer pressure from other kids will take a longer time.
3. Kids who use disposable diapers instead of cloth will take a longer time.
4. If you know your kid is capable of being potty trained (their diaper remains dry for 1 hour or more with normal hydration), experiment. Summer is a good time for this. Just let them run around without any diapers or pants on. You'd be surprised how quickly they pick it up. There will be accidents, so leather chairs/sofas and wood or linoleum or concrete floors are best, but if your kid is ready, this can be a fast way for them to get potty trained. Ours took 3 days of this kind of routine to figure it out with minimal mess. Be careful, though: once they're out of the diaper, except for night time and naps, don't let them back into the diaper or they may regress.
5. And finally, frustrating as it is, keep in mind that this, too, shall soon pass. Your kid's only been on the earth for 28 months. He'll learn in due time. Not that it gets any easier after they've been potty trained, but that's for later . . . .
get "pull ups" and don't force itColnagoFE
Aug 8, 2002 8:38 AM
boys are tougher than girls i hear and will often relapse after you think they've gotten it. be patient.
another thing we usedColnagoFE
Aug 8, 2002 8:46 AM
once they start going in an actual toilet they make these little flushable "pee targets" that they throw into the bowl. my son loved those and they helped him learn to aim. suppose you could use popcorn or something like that as well.
so I guess 7 weeks is too early, huh? :-) nmDougSloan
Aug 8, 2002 2:15 PM
It's baby poop now, Doug. Wait til you see that diaper...cory
Aug 9, 2002 7:53 AM
...when he's eating real food.
If I had my way, it never would be too earlyms
Aug 9, 2002 8:07 AM
I hated changing diapers and they get worse as the kid gets older. Although my wife, the childrearing "experts" and the like probably are right that you should not push things, if I had my way toilet training would begin soon after birth. But, the methods one would have to use probably would get you arrested for child abuse. All joking aside, we had neighbors whose child was toilet trained by a Chinese babysitter before the child hit its first birthday. The neighbors didn't ask too many questions about the method. The kid probably suffered great psychological damage, but the benefit (to the parents) may have been worth it. Just joking.
Chinese secrets...Matno
Aug 9, 2002 12:12 PM
My Chinese neighbors have a boy who stopped wearing diapers at about a year. We just thought they were big risk takers! :) I guess maybe they know something we don't.

Convenience is a real issue. My mother-in-law (who has 10 children) didn't potty train the last one until well after his 4th B-day. Not because he wasn't ready, but because she was so busy running errands that it was simply not an option to stop and find a toilet every time he had to go. Personally, I thought it was kind of weird, but I try to bite my tongue when it comes to the in-laws...
cultural differencesSpinchick
Aug 9, 2002 12:44 PM
I have several Indian friends whose kids have been potty trained by the age of 15 months. Apparently, it's customary to train their kids that early. I'm no expert, but they seem to be normal, well-adjusted kids to me. That said, I don't think I'd start that early.
see??? you mean smell (nm)ColnagoFE
Aug 12, 2002 9:57 AM