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Hey dads, what do you want for Father's Day??(15 posts)

Hey dads, what do you want for Father's Day??PaulCL
Jun 4, 2002 6:08 AM
Why do I ask?? As a father, my wife is asking me now what I want. Usually, I want unstructered time to ride - as opposed to the "be home by 10 so I can ...." or the normal "Honey, I think 3 hours on the bike is more than enough..." But its' hard to wrap "unstructured time" in a box with a bow. My kids want to see my face as I open the gift.

Since I can never come up with good suggestions, I am asking other cycling fathers for ideas to give to my wife and kids. It doesn't necessarilly have to be cycling related. So what do you want?? And/or what are you giving your Dad or Husband for Father's Day??
a babyDougSloan
Jun 4, 2002 6:13 AM
Due date is the 18th, but the 16th would be nice.

That would be the best present of allPaulCL
Jun 4, 2002 6:33 AM
Since I already have three children - all beautiful "gifts" - I would agree that a healthy baby would be the best possible Father's Day gift of all time.
nope...never accept a gift that eatsColnagoFE
Jun 4, 2002 7:55 AM
just kiddin ya...hope everything goes great with the new baby! enjoy and get your sleep now.
re: Hey dads, what do you want for Father's Day??Len J
Jun 4, 2002 6:27 AM
At various times I have asked for the following:

1.) "Get out of house free" Coupons for time to be used as I see fit, no questions asked.

2.) Individual, long weekend vacations with each of my kids, just me & one of them. As they became teenagers, this became a real gift to both of us.

3.) List of frivolous things that you wouldn't buy for yourself. Maybe those overpriced cages, or carbon cranks, or expensive cycling shorts that you can't seem to justify to yourself. My wife loves to buy me things that I won't buy for myself.

4.) One year I asked all of my kids & my wife to write me a letter with the 10 things that they wanted to do before they died. I asked them to include their dreams and their 5 biggest fears in the letter. I asked them to tell me honestly the 5 things that I did that bugged them & the 5 things that I did that they never wanted me to stop doing. Finally I wanted them to include a memory. Not just any memory but the one that they would tell to someone at my funeral that they thought would give someone the clearest idea of who I was, in thier eyes. I have to tell you that that Father's day was the best I've ever had.

Great ideasPaulCL
Jun 4, 2002 6:37 AM
On #4, we did something like that for my father-in-law for his 70th birthday. For the man who did nothing and wanted nothing, we contacted his oldest friends and family from around the country. We asked them each to send him a letter during his birthday week recounting a funny story or good memory of him. He was flooded with about 80 letters. It was the best present he ever got.
How many times do I have to tell you?!?!?rideslikeagirl
Jun 4, 2002 7:45 AM
Crying at work is JUST NOT COOL!! :)

That number 4 is a kicker.

Thanks for the idea. My step dad (only dad, really) deserves major kudos for putting up with my teen age shinanigans and helping me turn out to be a normal person.
As a Dad myself......Len J
Jun 4, 2002 7:49 AM
the best gift I could ever get was knowing how much my kids care.

Let him know, you both will be gifted.

#4: As good as it gets!AllisonHayes
Jun 4, 2002 10:52 AM
What an incredible thing to do! Care to share any of the results?
Results.Len J
Jun 4, 2002 10:59 AM
The only thing I'll share is that I learned things about both my wife & my kids that I hadn't known, about thier dreams & their fears, things I thought I knew got somehow clearer. I also learned some things about me, some I liked & some I didn't, but all true. I think they have helped me be a better partner & Father by focusing my attention on encouraging their dreams and weakening the hold of their fears. As an aside, it becaomes increasingly harder to not confront your own fears & dreams when your coaching someone else to acheive theirs. Seems like everything is a gift if you let it be.

"...everything is a gift if you let it be."AllisonHayes
Jun 4, 2002 11:22 AM
I shall become attentive to all its vestiges
To the first light, to the waking bird,
To the leaf's rustle, to the rain's drop,
To the flower's scent, to the sky's hue,
To the rise of the wind at dawn.
Jun 4, 2002 11:28 AM
...and I thought a response to my original post would be a "tie".

I'll have to save #4 until my children are older. At ages 9,7, & 3 the responses I would get is that they love me when I take them to the pool, and dislike it when I make them go to bed at night.
You might be surprised.Len J
Jun 4, 2002 12:34 PM
9 & 7 is not too early to get them to think about their dreams & fears. From personal experience, you might find some things that you do that you take for granted might be things they really appreciate.

I'm easy to pleasemickey-mac
Jun 4, 2002 8:56 PM
I just want to go the Dodgers game with my kids.
Len, thanks for passing that #4 along.Mike P
Jun 5, 2002 4:07 AM
My girlfiend has been asking me what I want for Father's Day. I would like some time with her; dinner, desert, and etc. Anyhow, she says she wants to get me a "present." I really am not a want person but she kept asking. So I told her I would like her to buy me a bottle of the expensive perfume she keeps asking me to buy her.

She seemed angry with my sarcasm (for some reason). I really just think the best gifts are not always what you would ever ask for.