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What do women want, confused!?!?!bic
May 14, 2002 9:59 PM
I visit my girlfriend the other night. Our plan is for me to bring and cook dinner. Dry aged steaks on the grill, boiled new potatoes. She provides the fance salad. We watch the Sac. Kings game against the Mavs. During half time I start the grill and we enjoy a little oral sex on the kitchen counter followed by, well you know. Dinner is great, Kings win. All seems OK... We are sitting on the couch watching the Giro. Yes, she also wants to learn about cycling. Fifteen minutes from the final sprint and she starts with the "can we talk?" I agree and miss who wins and when all is said and done don't know "what the hell happened" Both in the race and with us. :) Somebody help me!!
re: What do women want, confused!?!?!I Love Shimano
May 14, 2002 10:27 PM
Women always give that "Can we talk?" bit after sex.
A better question would be what does SHE want? nmSpinchick
May 15, 2002 5:53 AM
You think we know?DougSloan
May 15, 2002 6:15 AM
Anyone figures that out, write a book, and make a billion dollars.

First mistake is to think they are all the same. Second mistake is to think you figured any one of them out. Each is unique, and even that can change from day to day (not saying that's a bad thing, just difficult to understand).

All you can do is be yourself and hope you find one who likes that person. Good luck.

You think we know?zk3
May 15, 2002 7:10 AM
LOL, Doug I think you're right on the Money :-)

There's no way for us to know what was really wrong. Maybe you weren't talking to her enough so she needed some attention. Women like to talk or hear someone talk, guys like to sit and stare very intently at tv's, they might miss something otherwise :-p Dumb guys they don't realize it's about spending time togehter not what's on the tv... There's lots of ways you can get the best of both worlds if you figure out how to include her...
If some guy really knew, do you think he'd tell anyone? nmmr_spin
May 15, 2002 6:28 AM
??? I wanna have what you're smoking (nm)ColnagoFE
May 15, 2002 7:12 AM
re: What do women want, confused!?!?!firstrax
May 15, 2002 7:19 AM
When a man discovers what a woman wants the rules dictate that the woman must quickly change her wants to something new and undiscovered.
re: Stop trying to understand....jrm
May 15, 2002 7:58 AM
You did the right thing listening and talking....
This is why they invented TIVO. duh?AllisonHayes
May 15, 2002 9:49 AM
It's ingrained in the female nature. Don't question it, just find a workaround. In the mean time, enjoy your relationship.
May 15, 2002 11:31 AM
Remember that great Tivo commercial where the guy's watching the game? His wife comes in and starts talking about her awful day. An annoucer comes on and says something about P.E.V.R:

P - Pause

Guy pauses live TV on the Tivo

E - Empathize

Guy looks over robotically at wife, gives full attention as she talks about her day. No reaction, says nothing.

V - Validate

Wife stops talking. Guy says, "so you had a bad day." Wife smiles and leaves.

R = Resume

Guy resumes watching game.

Wife sticks head back in, saying "You are so sexy"
easy solutionDougSloan
May 15, 2002 11:42 AM
I now mute the tv during all commercials and talk with my wife during them (we do talk other times, too). This is actually about 1/2 of the total program time. She likes this, vs. scanning the chanels in between.

About all we watch now is the Giro, though, and you don't need sound all the time, either.
my 2 centsDuane Gran
May 15, 2002 6:37 PM
I've posted here with a few girlfriend issues myself, but that won't stop me from contributing. ;)

In my experience, many women exhibit an insecurity about the time and attention that men give them. One litmus test is to pull the "let's talk" move right when a man would least like to have that talk. The climax of a sporting event is a popular moment for this move. Like it or not, if a woman does this often enough we either leave the relationship or get conditioned to have the conversation during non-peak times. It is a lose-lose in my opinion.
Your money, your sperm and most of your free time? nmBruno
May 16, 2002 1:19 PM
I know, it took a long time and its so simple. nmOutWest
May 18, 2002 6:49 PM
She wants your attention!hayaku
May 23, 2002 2:33 AM
Let me guess, near the end of the race you took your arm from around her shoulder and stopped talking... focusing on the race, not telling her what is so interesting about people riding bikes at the same speed, in the same direction, not even doing anything... well, anything apparent to the naked eye...

It happens to me all the time. Just keep talking, tell her what's happening and why this particular part of the race is the most important.

It's better this way. If you stay at home and don't watch the race with her, she'll call you on the telephone. There is no escaping, the only choice is to tune your instincts to the point that you do the right thing before it needs to be done. Like a Jedi.