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argh (alert, short rant related to beautiful women)(13 posts)

argh (alert, short rant related to beautiful women)weiwentg
Apr 25, 2002 7:10 PM
I swear, the most beautiful girl on the entire bloody planet is in my university's cycling club. and she has a boyfriend.
I had this HUGE crush on her when I met her. problem was, she didn't seem to feel the same way about me. later on, I found out she'd been going out with some phantom member of the club (started going out with him around the time I met her).
right. rant over.
patience, grasshopperPaulCL
Apr 26, 2002 4:59 AM
All things must pass - like her relationship with the phantom. Be nice, be a friend, pounce when the time is right.
Apr 26, 2002 5:46 AM
Here is my attempt at insight:

*Treat beautiful women the same as any others; beauty does not make them better people, nor others lesser; additionally, if they think you like them primarily because of their beauty, if they are smart, they will not be as interested in you. Like them for who they are, not how they appear.

*Don't go all gaga over a woman purely because she rides; I realize the temptation is there, to share time with someone who has the same interest as you; however, it may blind you to differences between you that are problems, or blind you to seeing other women who may be better for you.

*Be a friend, not a pursuer. The best relationships I've had started with friendships.

*Understand that people can be at very different places in their lives at different times. You may be primed for a relationship, she may be into her own or not really wanting a serious one (you never know what goes on behind the doors). Be patient.

*I usually find that others are interested and interesting when they ask questions. Don't blab on about yourself, ask her questions. When she asks you questions, she at least is interested in something, which might be simple friendship. When she asks you questions, don't ramble on, or she may not ask again.

*Be honest, friendly, sincere, and respectful. That will get you further with a woman you would really like to be with far more than any suaveness or pick-up lines.

and also...TypeOne
Apr 26, 2002 12:03 PM
Some beautiful women seem to enjoy the suave, pickup-line types. The guy who exploits the woman's alcohol consumption at bars (like a wind-aided time in track, in my opinion). The guys who spent waaay too much time preparing to go out to the bars. The guys with four other friends who look nearly identical to them, who must be competing to see who is the coolest at a nightclub. If the woman is interested in that, I figure, "Nothing lost."

Doug's right; friendship is the way to go if you hope to move on to bigger things. And you can get more of an idea about the person and if she is truly someone you want to be with.
Go get 'em, tiger.
thanks, guys. I suppose we'll see...weiwentg
Apr 29, 2002 12:33 PM
(Sigh). I have the same problem.RoyGBiv
Apr 26, 2002 11:56 AM
I've admired her from a distance for a few years - that auburn hair, those green eyes - I'd go to bed thinking about her and wake up thinking about her. Just as I working up the nerve to ask her out, she shows up at the local pub with a boyfriend. Damn, why am I so passive aggressive?
Well, a few weeks ago, we bumped into each other on the intercity commuter bus. We got to talking and while gazing into those sparkling green eyes, she tells me how much she loves cycling. And how she and her boyfriend ride down to Niagara Falls on a Saturday, spend the night there and head home on Sunday. Gawd, I felt so bummed out. And then she goes on and describes her thighs of steel. Like, stop the bus, I want to get off!!!!
oh, my, those wordsDougSloan
Apr 26, 2002 12:55 PM
Any time a woman says the words "my boyfriend" (or worse yet, "my husband") to you, that's a clear signal. "Back off. At best, we can be friends (for now)." Doesn't it bite? Nonetheless, if she feels that way, it's much better that you know it. Move on.
Hey, it's not like I'm heartsickRoyGBiv
Apr 26, 2002 1:11 PM
In fact, I can chuckle to myself over the irony.
To be honest, I admire her so much I hope she lives happily ever after with the guy.
What a...zk3
Apr 26, 2002 2:53 PM
...nice and understanding bunch of guys you are :-)
Go after ugly women....dirtbag
Apr 27, 2002 7:38 PM
...Heck, that's what I do and I never have any of these problems.

The ugly ones are easy! check it out.
Go after ugly women....weiwentg
Apr 28, 2002 11:53 AM
as someone else said, it's like a cat 1 racer in a cat 5 race.
more infoDougSloan
Apr 29, 2002 5:33 AM
Apr 29, 2002 10:52 AM
cute :)