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Teenage daughter update...(5 posts)

Teenage daughter update...BikeViking
Mar 11, 2002 7:32 AM
There was good news and bad this weekend...the bad was not unexpected.

I called on Saturday P.M. and my daughter answered the phone. I started talking to her like I always do and she interrupted and said she had to work on her homework, of all things!!! My pariah status has reached a new low if she ACTUALLY wanted to do homework rather than talk to me. I e-mailed her afterward, asking for a subject for us to start talking. No news yet. Doesn't matter though...I will be asking for her every week until she starts acting like the adult she THINKS she is. :o)

The good news is my 13 year old son wants to come up for the summer AND he wants to bring his bike! we shoudl be able to get some good "wheel" time in.

Again, thanks for all of your advice.

Hang in there.Len J
Mar 11, 2002 9:32 AM
Just keep sending the message that she is important to you & that you really want to get to know her. Even if you don't get any postitve fedback from her, she will (on some level) appreciate that she is important to you.

Good Luck.

re: Teenage daughter update...Starliner
Mar 11, 2002 9:48 AM
She seems to have some issue with you that's causing her to become distant. Maybe you ought not to force the issue directly with your next contact attempts, but instead do something light and amusing in the hope that it will distract her attention from any anger she may have for you. Show her a softer side of yourself with the next few contacts. From time to time remind her that your door is open for her, without getting too pushy.

I would recommend going to a site like and choose one of their ecards to send to her. Do it a few times a week and then follow up with her to see what she thought of them.

Bottom line is you've got to find some way to open the communication with her.
re: Pushing you away..jrm
Mar 11, 2002 12:51 PM
its common in teens.
"the more you ignore me, the closer i get".colker
Mar 12, 2002 10:38 AM
it's a verse from a morrisey song and fits right in...yes, you are doing the right thing. she knows now there's someone worrying about her. someone that is around for whenever she needs.