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Apology to Jeanloz(8 posts)

Apology to Jeanloznetso
Jan 29, 2002 8:05 AM
I am sorry for any name calling. The issue of Drugs is an emotional and sensitive one to me. I also want to apologize to Dog and Scottfree.
re: Apology to Jeanlozscottfree
Jan 30, 2002 7:07 AM
I can't imagine what you're apologizing to me or Doug for. Certainly not owed. As someone who's also had considerable family grief because of drugs, I understand your pain and hope things work out for you.
No need to,TJeanloz
Jan 30, 2002 8:17 AM
There's absolutely no need to apologize. Constructive dialog is the only way to form and re-form opinions about anything. It makes us all think about what is right, and what needs to be done.

I realize that my views often seem pretty mean spirited, but they are usually esoteric ideals of what I think is 'right', not what I think would be effective. Reasonably, I think the government is in a pretty good position to provide rehab services, but I don't think it is their job or duty to provide those services. And I understand that different people will (and do) have a different view of what the role of government is.
No need to,netso
Jan 30, 2002 9:50 AM
My big gripe was the fact that there was no information available. What do you do? where do you go?
On the other hand it is still emotionally trying for me. My wife and I battled this problem from the time he was 16 to 26. It cost us a lot! But spiritually and emotionally it was devastating. How can you raise one child to be a success and fail with the other? Happily, he has been free almost 1 year.
No need to,scottfree
Jan 30, 2002 9:54 AM
One day at a time, my friend.
No need to,Len J
Jan 30, 2002 10:05 AM
Unfortunatly, some parents can't handle the stress, the (human) guilt & the fear. I admire anyone who cares enough to hang through 10 years of hell for someone they love.

As far as raising one to be a success & one to be a failure, unfortunatly, it's never that simple, friends, genetics, events, predispositions, all play a part. Ultimatly you can only do the best you can do & learn & grow.

I found with my brother (Whom I raised, he was 10 yrs younger than me) that the best thing I could do for him was forgive myself. Ultimatly I had to recognize that I never had as much power over his behavior as I thought.

I wish him & you continued recovery.

one has to see it to understandpeloton
Jan 30, 2002 10:03 PM
It's a tough issue. People who aren't sympathetic to the issue are lucky they can be that way. I wish I could still look at the issue like I was above it all. It's a hard thing to watch someone close to you kill themselves that way. I don't think you have anything to apologize for.
it's coolDog
Feb 1, 2002 8:33 AM
I completely understand how you feel. I get pretty irate when I see my family members having killed themselves through addictive substance abuse - tobacco. It's the same thing, just takes longer. Come to think of it, though, all the ones who smoked are now dead from cancer.

I didn't mean to jump your case. Sorry, too.