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Parental changes4bykn
Nov 24, 2001 5:53 AM
With all the kids on the way, maybe some of the veteran parents can relate some of the changes Dog, PsyDoc and Spinchick (any others?) can expect. This one hit me yesterday as I was preparing lunch.

When you say "The Good Stuff", you aren't talking about imported beer, or single malt scotch, but Kraft Macaroni and Cheese, not the store brand.
are probably more intense than you imaginehms
Nov 25, 2001 7:58 PM
I have two daughters, 9 and 12. None of the changes my wife and I experienced were a surprise. Anyone who thinks about having children can imagine the major changes -- an additional person in the husband-wife relationship, great time commitments (especially in the early years), less free time, less money to spend (kids are expensive), etc. However, the thing that is hard to imagine is the intensity of the experience. There is no real vacation from being a parent. Even when someone else physically is with your child, you are responsible for him or her all of the time, for a long time.
"Intensity" pretty well covers it for me, too.cory
Nov 27, 2001 1:08 PM
Parents-to-be know, as much as you can know something like that without experiencing it, that there will be changes. The thing that surprised me is that they never quit. Unlike even a very demanding job, where you get occasional breaks even if they're only hours or minutes, you're ALWAYS a parent. When my son was about 18 months, I had to go to D.C. for a week. Grandma and Grandpa were happy to watch him, we trusted them, and if Washington isn't paris, it's at least Washington, with lots of interesting stuff to see and do. My wife spent 55 minutes of every hour thinking, asking, wondering or worrying about how he was doing, and about 50 cents of every vacation dollar on phone calls back to California. Now he's 21, and she's still doing it...
re: Parental changesPsyDoc
Nov 27, 2001 4:22 AM
My in-laws, who are absolutely wonderful people, were down from Kentucky for the week of Thanksgiving. The university I teach at gives us the entire week off. I had planned on doing a lot of riding that week, which would give my wife some quality one-on-one time with her parents that she has not seen in over a year. But, I spent most of the time working on the baby's room with some help from my father-in-law and only rode a couple of times. After I found out that my wife was pregnant, I began thinking about how much I would be able to ride once the baby gets here. Now, my thoughts are much more about the nurturing of the child and less about riding. But, my wife has reminded me that we both will need to get some exercise. So, our initial plan is to "tag team." In other words, she will feed the baby and then go out for a ride while I watch our child. When she gets back, then it's my turn for a ride. This sounds good on "paper," but we will see how well it works.