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Need some advice....smurfy
Jun 15, 2003 7:50 AM
I have been a reader but not a poster for some time but I need some advice if anyone can help. My Dad passed away a week and a half ago. This happened suddenly. I have been a cyclist and runner for more than 15 years but I haven't been able to get back out there. I did go for a run yesterday morning but I couldn't do a ride this morning. Does anyone have any advice that will help me to continue training? My folks went to practically every event I entered and they would drive sag for me on long training rides. Thanks for any advice.
re: Need some advice....Dukede
Jun 15, 2003 9:21 AM
I'm not a cyclist or a runner and I've only been reading this site for about a week but I can say a couple of things.
1- This is going to take time to get over especially if it was sudden, but what will help you is doing the things you like to do running, cycling whatever it may be. Getting your mind off the situation and back into what you enjoy will make this a little bit easier to deal with.
2- I'm sure your dad would want you to keep going and do the things you've always enjoyed.
3- Finally, Faith. I don't know if you are a religious person, but even if you aren't say a prayer and ask for some help and you will get it.
These three things helped me through some bad times and hopefully they will help you to.
My condolences
Condolences smurfy...Akirasho
Jun 15, 2003 10:15 AM
... it's been a while since my Dad passed, but I remember what I presume you're feeling.

My Dad was also instrumental in aiding my cycling... in small subtle yet important ways... he rode a stationary for fitness... and was even planning on getting a bike to join me for short jaunts on the road... and that's where my advice begins.

Give yourself time to grieve... but remember those things that define your Dad's life... and celebrate that life through your own. It won't be easy... and it might take a while... but focus on those positives. Your return to training need not be full bore... but return is what you know he'd want... and you know is necessary.

I was able to get back on the road... do a bit of thinking... a bit of crying... a bit of remembering (thinking of him on his stationary was inspirational)... a bit of laughing (thinking of him on his stationary was funny too) and smiling... I love my Dad and he loves me! I will always remember him and be thankful... I'm sure you'll experience a bit of the same, feel the same and will remember and be thankful of/for your Dad too! Celebrate his life!

Peace be with you.

Be the bike.