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DADS- time to ride?(25 posts)

DADS- time to ride?trj
Mar 14, 2003 6:07 AM
when do you find the time? 2 kids under 2 years old,full time job,work on the house,etc.etc. my wife is understanding but i am having a tough time getting in any ride time-summer might be easier? so what is your sched. like? curious>>>>>> thanks...
re: DADS- time to ride?mickey-mac
Mar 14, 2003 6:25 AM
During the week, I get out two or three days before work, riding from about 6:30 to 8:00. On the weekends, I head out at 6:30, typically getting home at 10:00 on Saturday and 9:00 on Sunday. During fall and winter months, lights are necessary for a 6:30 a.m. start. This schedule usually allows me to do 150-175 per week while avoiding divorce.
When EVERYONE else is asleep...Matno
Mar 14, 2003 6:27 AM
Or so it seems. I'm almost in the same boat as you, second daughter due in May. In the winter months it seems like I've been relatively unsuccessful trying to fit in a decent riding schedule. I think the best time to go is whenever the kids are in the best mood. That way, your wife won't feel like you're dumping too much of a load on her. For me, that's early in the morning, but so far, that's meant temperatures below freezing for the last several months. Hopefully the summer will make early morning rides easier!
Here is the ANSWERmacalu
Mar 14, 2003 6:33 AM
Bike commuting. Been doing it every work day since my wife was pregnant with our first. Now, after two kids, it is a bike-life saver. I also get Sunday mornings until about 11, which if I get out early gives me a plenty long ride. Lately, I've been able to squeeze a short recovery ride in on Saturday as well. But its the bike commuting that really lets me get my regular, daily miles.
nights, mornings, lunchColnagoFE
Mar 14, 2003 6:33 AM
Cycling takes up a lot of time. The only way it's gonna happen is to ride mornings, lunchtimes, nights and weekends when you can fit it in. Take what you can get. I used to shun hour rides or less thinking they werent worth it, but now I take it when I can. 30 minutes on a Spin bike at lunch is about all my work will allow, but it's better than nothing and 3x a week for weight training after work or at lunch helps keep me in shape as well. Get a trailer for the kiddos and haul em along. It isn't as good as riding alone, but you'll at least be riding and probably giving mom a chance to take a break from them. I also take a week vacation every summer to go riding with friends on an organized ride as well as the occasional race or century to keep me honest.
re: DADS- time to ride?txcross
Mar 14, 2003 6:37 AM
During the week I get to work at 7:00 am and leave at 5:00 pm, luckily this allows me to take a two hour lunch. We have showers so cleaning up is not a problem. That gives me at least 20 miles per day.

On weekends my wife and I have made a deal, Saturday mornings I get my son to give her a break. Sunday mornings are mine. I'll leave the house usually around 6:00 am which easily gives me 4-5 hours worth of riding.

I'm looking at getting a bike trailer for the little one. The neighborhood we live in has great hike and bike trails. This way I can give my wife a break and ride my bike at the same time. I'm not using this as any sort of a work out, just a chance to get off with my boy, take him to the park, go get ice cream etc...
re: DADS- time to ride?PEDDLEFOOT
Mar 14, 2003 6:39 AM
Summer schedule is 4:00 AM to 6:00 AM on weekdays before work.I ride on a local bikepath with a light.It's nice having the whole route to myself except for the critters.

On weekends depending on sunrise I start out anywhere between 5:00 AM to 6:00 AM and ride whatever mileage I planned for that ride.Usually get back home by Noon at the latest.

This schedule doesn't leave alot of time for nightlife but with two kids it's hard to do that much in the way of partying anyway.My partying is in the saddle riding while the sunrises.
re: DADS- time to ride?Horace Greeley
Mar 14, 2003 6:42 AM
I have 2 boys under 6 yrs old. Key is getting out before anyone is awake. Otherwise I find it hard to leave the boys. During the week, I'm out on the road by 5:30 a.m. or on the trainer during the winter at the same time. Weekends out on the road by 6:30, back no later than 11:00. This spring/summer I also plan on coming in a 1/2 hour later one day a week to get in more miles (I have a 1 hour, 40 min. commute).
familiar refrainPaulCL
Mar 14, 2003 6:46 AM
As a father of 10, 8 and 4 year olds and a wife who doesn't ride, I've been going through this for years. First off, I have convinced and proven to my wife that I am a happier person after I ride. She is convinced that I need to ride regularly in order to be a good dad/husband. That's the biggest hurdle.

My normal summer schedule has been: 5:30am to 8am on Wed. morning, up at 6am Sunday, home by noon for the long ride while Liz takes the kids to church (am at the church of the Holy Colnago). Before my office moved last year, I used to catch 1 or 2 lunchtime workout rides. Now my office is too far away from home to do that. So, with my wife's blessing, I am going to add one more early AM workday workout - though maybe not another 40 miles.

The keys:
1. Don't take away too much, if any, family time
2. Make sure to offer freetime to your wife first!
3. When you give up sleep to ride, don't be grumpy that afternoon. Think caffeine.

Sage-like wisdom Paul.look271
Mar 14, 2003 5:02 PM
Those are my priorites as well. Now my girls are a little older (8&10) so it is getting easier. Mom works this weekend so I'll get them breakfast and get out for 1.5 to 2 hrs since it is supposedly going to be beautiful, get back in time to take the 8yr old to her soccer match, then get home in time to meet wife after work. That's the plan. We'll see how it pans out!
re: DADS- time to ride?toomanybikes
Mar 14, 2003 7:09 AM
Before I was married - in the morning, after work, evening trainer sessions - 8 hour rides on weekends. It was great.

Eleven years later, in the morning on weekends before anyone else is up, during the winter this means below freezing rides of one to one and a half hours at most. Warmer weather I maybe get out in the evening for a quick ride but still mostly weekends. Hard to get more than two or at most three hours.

Kids, Dogs, lawns, house, etc.

I rely on the trainer a lot, more than I would like but that's life.

I always take the bike on trips for work (If they are by car, as they are increasingly) and family camping trips in the motorhome, I take two bikes and ride every day, at least once.

You get it when you can.
commuting helpsRJF
Mar 14, 2003 7:16 AM
I've got an 18-month old and another due in July. My work schedule is 6:30am to 6:00pm, so I have to use my daily commute to at least get some miles in. On the weekend I go early or at nap time.

It helps to have an athletic wife. My wife runs marathons, so she understands that it's natural for me to want to get out and ride on a weekend day. She does the same thing with her long runs.
Mar 14, 2003 7:22 AM
I'm getting 20 mile rides in at lunch from work. It works about 4 out of 5 days. I get on the fixed gear and go really hard.

For weekends, I've almost abandoned any hope of doing events or group rides. I sort of negotiate every ride around what my wife wants to do. It's hard to get away for more than about 4-5 hours, where I used to go 8-12 at a time (ultra training).

The single hardest thing about training, to me, is finding the time to do it. I need another 8 hours in every day, where the world stops and I keep going...

it gets easier. nmJS Haiku Shop
Mar 14, 2003 7:28 AM
Yup....been mostly limited to lunchtime myself (nm)joekm
Mar 14, 2003 8:25 AM
Commute, early am, nap timevindicator
Mar 14, 2003 7:32 AM
Bike Commuting works well for me so far.

Leaving early am on weekends in the summer is good, too.

If your kids are still young enough to take naps on weekends, one parent or the other has to be stuck at home during that time. When it's her turn, use it to go for a ride. This is especially good in winter when it's dark and cold early in the morning and afternoon is the best time to ride - it should get you at least one 2-3 hour ride per weekend. Then you stay home during nap the other day and let her do her thing.

I rely on the above for most of my mileage, but every once in a while I can negotiate a couple of hours during the day on weekends beyond that.

I try to make up for it by staying home on evenings when she heads out for hobby-related nights, and by picking up some extra kid help in the evening so she can relax (like bath and story time).

But P-B-P is definitely out for this year!
similar story - mornings and lunch...outofthesaddle
Mar 14, 2003 8:10 AM
Similiar morning/lunch schedule to others who have posted. Two days a week before work 5:30-7:30, two days lunch rides, early in the mornings on the weekends with the occasional race/event thrown in. Key for marital harmony is that my wife understands and appreciates that I make a huge effort to schedule ride time around my family and not the other way around. I don't ride/race as often as I'd like but I still get in about 125-150 miles a week.
my schedule...philippec
Mar 14, 2003 8:12 AM
1 Wife
2 Daughters (4.5 and 7yrs)

Average Week-day (mondays off):
05:15 wake-up
05:45 trainer work-out and or outside workout (in the dark.. ugh!)
07:15 Breakfast w/ the girls
08:00 Bike commute to work/Metro to work (depending on training cycle)
08:45 Shower @ work
09:00 At my desk
12:30 (lunch and/or 45 min focused workout depending on training cycle)
18:00 Bike commute home/Metro home (depending on training cycle)
18:45 Homework, dinner, play and stories w/ the girls
22:00 lights out.

06:00-08:00 early am ride

06:00-10/11:00 Long ride
race every other week-end

So, depending on the time of year, I can usually get in anywhere between 12 and 18 hrs a week.

I never used to be this organised but being married and having children have made me a better time manager! and I train smarter and race better!
1. Instead of TV. 2. Schedule it. 3. Be a dad FIRST!cory
Mar 14, 2003 8:49 AM
This may not be the case with you, but I'm always struck by people who "can't find time to exercise" but can discuss the plot and characters of every show on television. I've never been a big TV fan, but even I can slip into an hour or two a night (catch the news, then "Jeopardy," then there's something cool on the History Channel...). This time of year, if I can't get in a ride/workout at lunch, I do it as soon as I get home. Then dinner, and then painting the bathroom can be done later, after the kids are in bed.
Actually my kids are 17 and 22, so I don't have to bathe them and whatnot and my wife doesn't feel like I'm skipping out if I leave again 15 minutes after I get home. It is harder when they're really small. FWIW, though, if you think it's tough when they're 2, wait until they're 9--All I could do in those days is ride my bike between soccer and basketball games.
It may help to schedule your riding or other workouts like you do work and sleep, a few days in advance, not just try to cram them in here and there. Something always gets in the way otherwise.
And finally--maybe you can't DO everything. You're a father now, not a bicyclist. In 15 years nobody will give a sh!t whether you rode the bike today or not, but your kids will remember what you did with them.
Commuting helps a lot.djg
Mar 14, 2003 9:03 AM
It's tough with little kids--there's just no way around it. They're cute, they're gratifying, and the unconditional love thing is nice, but they aint easy. We've got one year old twins and a 5 year old. And the job is definitely full time.

Bike commuting is a real help. It's an excellent way to start and end the day and it gets me on the bike regularly throughout the week (although, unlike MB1, I missed a number of weeks this winter due to Washington's unusually harsh weather--coupled with its typical inability to keep the roads clear). I'd like to do it every day but sometimes it's impractical and I cave. Basically, my strategy is to shoot for 4 days a week and settle for 3. Is it hard core cycling? No. But it gives me a regular ride. Add a weekend ride and you're doing ok.
Ya, what they saidTWD
Mar 14, 2003 10:56 AM
I think everyone's covered most of the bases.

What works for me?
-Commute to work every day
-Ride with the kids in the trailer = nap time for them
-find a wife that likes to ride
-get a tandem and take the whole family
-negotiate ride times with "the boss"
-give her some alone time in return for what she wants to do.
-Kill your TV! We ditched ours, got a DVD player for the computer and only watch the TDF DVDs (whole family loves it) or an occaissional movie.

If your kids are real young, start them off in the trailer at an early age so that they are used to it. My son loves it, he naps, or reads books. We've had him out on 60 mile rides on several occaisions.

You can get great workouts in with a trailer. Last Saturday, I went out for a 60 mile ride with the local club, then came home hooked up the trailer, then did another 25 miles including an extremely steep 2000 ft gravel road climb. I was wasted after that, but it was an awesome day since I got to do a club ride, then ride with my wife and son.

We'er expecting our next kid in 7 months, and plan to have this one out riding as soon as mom is ready to sit on a bike seat again (probably sooner).

Can't wait until my son gets old enough to use a trialercycle or conversion kit on the back of the tandem.

Get the whole family involved. I'm hoping my son won't be asking for a pint sized Colnago though, I can't afford one myself.
Umm... When mom turns her backTri-State Cycler
Mar 14, 2003 11:58 AM
Just Kidding. 4 daughters 17-5, Self employed and I commute long distance leaving early in the morning. So most my ride time like most dads come at the expense of my other hobbies and social events. I usually get out after work for short rides and early on the weekends.
re: DADS- time to ride?Leak
Mar 14, 2003 4:03 PM
Either ride from your home early (I'm on the rode by 6:30 am) or get up even earlier and meet other dads for a group ride starting at 6:30 am. Typically, other dads are the only ones that will be willing to meet you that early!
Do a little horse trading...wasabekid
Mar 14, 2003 4:42 PM
with your wife ;-) .

When my (2) kids were younger, I use to trade babysitting schedule with her. Typical compromises are: Monday after work I pick up the kids, she goes to the gym. Tuesday is the reverse and so on. Fridays are most often family night outs. Long rides on Saturday mornings, back by ~noon, rest while babysitting in the afternoon, her free time( girls day out, etc.) 'til early evening. Sunday repeat(sometimes)

Thru flexibilty and compromise we made it manageable.

Good luck,

Something a bit differentThe Truth
Mar 14, 2003 8:21 PM
About 3 Sundays a month I take my son to see his grandparents. They live in an area that is wonderful for riding so I get a 3 or 4 hour ride the grandparents get to visit and my wife gets a break. Works out great for everyone.