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My wife thinks I'm nuts and I will die. What do you think??(30 posts)

My wife thinks I'm nuts and I will die. What do you think??PaulCL
Jul 4, 2002 5:51 AM
On Saturday, my entire family will be going to a friend's farm for a late 4th of July party. Since we have nothing planned before the party, I thought I would ride the 65-70 miles to their farm - alone.

Here are the problems (according to my wife):
1. I'll be riding alone. No other cyclists going to the party
2. For 40 of the 65 miles, I'll be on unfamiliar roads
3. I will have to leave home at about 11 am. Leaving up to four hours to ride.
4. The weather forecast has changed for the worse: 96 degree high with humidity.

My dear wife thinks I'm insane to do this ride. I have assured her that I will carry lots of water - camelback + two bottles. I will carry lots of food. I will be readily availabe via cellphone. The locals in Kentucky are always willing to help. I gave her a map with my specific route.

In her own words: " other cyclist would do this, ask one of your friends..." So I ask this board: Would you ride in this heat and humidity mid day????

Thanks Paul
you're not entirely sane :pweiwentg
Jul 4, 2002 6:05 AM
but if you're conditioned to the heat, there's no reason why not. although personally I'd start at the crack of dawn, and I'd carry another water bottle in the jersey. can't have too much water in hot weather.
Of course I would...loop
Jul 4, 2002 6:06 AM
...Just to piss her off. It's a territorial issue, really. You have to take what's rightfully yours; specifically your dignity as a MAN and your right to self-autonomy.

...That and begging for forgiveness is always easier than asking permission from The Boss (I know from experience).

Have a safe ride, and buy her flowers later.
re: My wife thinks I'm nuts and I will die. What do you think??zooog
Jul 4, 2002 6:16 AM
I am sure that with the detailed map she can direct you to the nearest ER when you call her on the cell phone. Or you yourself can call Life flight as your near your last gasping breath. Or NOT.... go ahead and ride it
Far from nuts.gs6769
Jul 4, 2002 6:21 AM
I think if you've ridden this sort of distance before without too much difficulty, there's no reason you shouldn't do it.
It sounds like you've taken a reasonable approach in preparing, plenty of water, food, cell phone, map of the route for the Mrs.
As regards the heat, indeed it can take it out of you but I know I've ridden 65-70 in 90+ degrees. I just took it a bit easier and drank Water Water Water.
I'd say do it. Be smart (you sound so already), be safe (ditto), drink lots of water and have fun!
I did a century last Sat. in 90+ heat,STEELYeyed
Jul 4, 2002 6:47 AM
but my wife already knows I am crazy,but not stupid. Water is key,and find a shady spot to rest often if you feel like you need it,don't try to push yourself in that heat or you will be in trouble. If you do it right and show her you know what you are doing, she won't worry so much in the future. Myself I would probably go with the family and ride later or tomorrow morning,time with my family is precious.
I'm doing a similar thing tomorrowms
Jul 4, 2002 7:00 AM
Tomorrow, we are picking up my daughter from camp, which is about 120 miles away. I plan to drive the first 60 miles in my car(through not so interesting areas) and then ride my bike through some great hills, etc. to the camp. Then my wife will meet me at the camp and bring me back to my car. I never have been on the roads I will be taking (others have told me they are great) and I will be alone. Insofar as the weather is concerned, it is hot here in Maryland and I expect the same tomorrow in central Pennsylvania. You may be nuts, but you are not the only one.
Did the same last SundaytheBreeze
Jul 5, 2002 12:09 PM
Had to pick the kids up at a camp over the mountains. I drove a short way (ditto the boring part), and rode the rest. The husband picked me up at a convenient spot and I even managed to get a shower before arriving at camp. Great ride!
Isn't camp a wonderful thing? A whole week sans offspring, got a lot of miles in!
Sounds like a fun ride to meLeroy
Jul 4, 2002 7:27 AM
Plenty of potential problemsCrankist
Jul 4, 2002 7:33 AM
if you look for them, or if you drive to the BBQ for that matter. You sound like a big Boy Scout who is prepared. So I say focus on the matters of of really living through life and make the ride. And re-assure your wife that, like you, there are MANY insane riders with a short life expectancy.
Oh, and
Have Fun,
Thanks for the responsesPaulCL
Jul 4, 2002 7:39 AM
As for her concerns...I will drink ALOT. I will take it easy - hence the allowed 4 hours to go 60+ miles. I live in the Cincinnati/N. KY area so I am used to heat and humidity. I can't ride the next day, so this is it for the weekend. After the ride, we will be at a BBQ, fireworks, and we might camp out at the farm.

Oh, and there aren't any ER's within miles of my ride. As for being a boy scout..I dunno...but I am prepared. I was never concerned about the ride, but, obviously, my wife is.

Thanks. Now, off to freeze a few water bottles. Paul
P.S. re: the SANITY issuePaulCL
Jul 4, 2002 7:42 AM
Most of us are considered insane anyway. Haven't you all heard the comments..."you rode a 100 one day..???" or "you ride alone, I wouldn't" or my personal favorite "...its' 20 degrees outside and you're gonna ride a bike???, You ARE nuts!"

I believe my wife is more concerned with me riding alone in unfamiliar territory. The heat/humidity is just her excuse.

Happy 4th. Paul
Pretty dumb question in my opinion...AllisonHayes
Jul 4, 2002 8:06 AM
Asking people on this board whether to go riding is like asking an addict if its a good idea to have another hit. What kind of response did you expect? And do you think for a minute your wife doesn't see through your ruse? Hah! What a scam!

Oh, and have a nice ride--great idea! :)

Just returned from a 60 mile ride myself...having a cold slice of watermelon. Can anyone describe the taste of cold, juicy, crispy watermelon?
Pretty sneaky, huh?PaulCL
Jul 4, 2002 9:51 AM
"OK, honey, we'll put this question to an unbiased board of roadies...they'll come up with a sensible answer"

HEE-HEE. So, ya think she saw through that one????

My wife would never say no, she was just voicing concern. I wish I could leave earlier, but we have plans first thing in the morning. My 7 year old daughter has to go 'riding'...horseback riding.
re: My wife thinks I'm nuts and I will die. What do you think??SlowRoadie
Jul 4, 2002 8:17 AM
I'm just thinking about the crazies riding around drunk as skunks, especially on farm roads. I figure if you leave around 11am that's a good 4 - 5 hr ride in that heat, which will put you around 4pm. I just think that on july 4th it's more risky than usual. But that's just MHO.
re: My wife thinks I'm nuts and I will die. What do you think??Fender
Jul 4, 2002 8:56 AM
I train in 90+ degree heat. I would start a little earlier in order to avoid more heat, say 10am or maybe even 9am. And don't forget to carry at least two spare tubes and a patch kit. A few extra tools will also do the trick in case of a mechanical.
Good luck, and let us know how it turns out!
That's what she gets...filtersweep
Jul 4, 2002 9:15 AM
...for thinking you spend too much money on bike gear;)

I'll ride in MN in Feb. if it is "warm" meaning the roads are clear, regardless of temp... or last weekend- similar weather to what you describe. It certainly helps me to justify my equipment expenses.

The heat and humidity isn't that big of a deal. I'd be more concerned about roads and traffic.

My wife is always concerned that I will be hit by a car when I go out... it doesn't help that I WAS hit by a car before. She doesn't even like to think of that possibility, so she phrases her concern to be about weather, daylight, etc...

Put the shoe on the other foot... and I'll bet you'd be concerned (even moreso) about her making a similar solo trip. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, and it certainly sounds like you've thought this through.
Seems perfect to me: you get a ride in w/o...Djudd
Jul 4, 2002 9:40 AM
ignoring family and friends. Just perfect.
Seems perfect to me: you get a ride inPaulCL
Jul 4, 2002 9:55 AM
The family and friends think I'm nuts. Good nuts, but still nuts.

It is perfect. I ride to a party. I get a car trip home. My wife is more than happy to drive the kids the 50 miles (the short way, the highway way) to the farm. I get those funny looks from the party guests...'what's a grown man doing riding a bicycle and in this heat, no less..." as they sit there finishing their second bag of chips.
Jul 4, 2002 10:12 AM
Rule 1: all non-cycling wives think their spouses are nuts. I rode from 7:30 to 10:30 this am, and mine thinks I'm nuts for getting up early.
Rule 2: any time you can include a ride into your non-cycling routine, ie, kill two birds with one stone, you need to do it.
Rule 3: Hydrate or die- just try to make sure that there are some convenient stores along the route so hydration replanishment will not be a problem. 200 oz of hydration may be the minimum requirement. Good luck.
You call that early??PaulCL
Jul 4, 2002 11:44 AM
I was up at 6am this AM and did 35 miles before the parade. Last Sunday, it was 5:30am. And yes, my wife thinks I'm nuts too. She commented to me that she had finally met another person who was as addicted to working out as I - my boss!!. He does Yoga 7 days per week, rides three, runs two, plays tennis three. Oh yeah, if the weather is bad, he lifts weights or swims. Great boss. He understands.

For all my exercise..cycling, lifting, etc...I should be in a lot better shape. Go figure?
I think you wife LOVEs you dearly, would you let herczxyz188
Jul 4, 2002 11:34 PM
ride alone knowing crazy drunken drivers zooming down the road which is common during July 4th holidays? I love riding myself, and I too once initially adamantly wanted to ride a long dangerous journey alone regardless of her objection. But as I took a moment back while I was about to leave, I saw her watery eyes. I loved her too much to be selfishly having a good time while I am torturing her by her being worried-sick about me. If you really have to ride on unknown territory(maybe dangerous) for the next 4-5hours, get a few riding partners. Drop your macho PRIDE, and cycle smart. I learn that listening to your wife doesn't mean you're a "cop-out" as a man, you empowered your wife to love you and look out for you, just as you would for her. Cycling is great, but try to set your priority straight.
I think you wife LOVEs you dearly, would you let herPaulCL
Jul 5, 2002 4:59 AM
You almost made me feel guilty about ever getting on the bike.

First of all, as I stated in the original post, I am riding on July 6th, NOT the 4th. I agree with you that I wouldn't ride a long, mdi-day ride on the 4th. Too many drunks. Too much missed time with my family.

Does your wife really cry when you leave?? How do you ever walk out the door?? My wife's objections (now gone) were not adamant. It was just a minor point of contention. She'll hardly be worried sick.

The weather forecast has now changed from high of 96 degrees and very humid, to high of 85 with low humidity. Let's Roll!! Paul
Just be careful!K-Man
Jul 5, 2002 5:18 AM
I have been riding all week (PA) in the heat/humidity 93+ degrees on my road and MTB bike. Have been fine all week. July 4th MTB ride about 18 miles into it I started getting the chills and goose bumps.....I left my group right away and headed back to the car. Think I mad it just shy of heat exhaustion. Had a bad headache and was really tired all day. Can hit you when you least expect it.

Hardly nutsMel Erickson
Jul 5, 2002 5:40 AM
I do something very similar several times a year. Whenever the family is having a bash at the lake cabin I usually ride up alone. It's about 65 miles and the weather is often in the 90's. Although I know the roads well I always ride unsupported. Sometimes my wife passes me along the way. Maybe have your wife take the same route you're taking so she can see you're ok. With a cell phone, water, food, basic tools, tubes, patches and a pump it's like a ride in the park. It's a no brainer in my book.
if you are nuts, some of us are certifiably insaneDougSloan
Jul 5, 2002 5:43 AM
How about a couple hundred miles at 110 degrees?

Drink enough water and you'll be fine.

sure why notColnagoFE
Jul 5, 2002 6:54 AM
sounds like a good way to get the miles in. just make sure you have decent roads to ride and don't get stuck riding on an interstate or busy highway.
That's what 1 gallon hyda-packs are foroff roadie
Jul 5, 2002 8:47 AM
I kid you not, I have a hydra-pack that holds not just ameesaly 66 or 100 ounces, but a whoping 128 oz. I bought it for MTB, but I'd definatley use it for a ride like that.

Here' s a story for the wife. During the worst heat of the summer maybe 5 years back, I did try to ride from Milwaulkee to Chicago solo. I was on a POS "tour" bike with a heavy backpack. I had to stop for Gatoraide dozens of times, but I made it most of the way, then took the subway to my house and came back for my bike the next day. Later on, I found out many people had died of the heat on the same day I'd been doing my inter-city ride.

If a totally un-preparted goof (this was my first ride over 20 miles) on a POS bike can do it, I figure anybody probably can. Just take it easy, take rest stops, and drink, drink, drink- BEFORE you feel thirsty.
YES. hope you did itneube
Jul 5, 2002 9:12 AM
i've had this exact conversation with my girlfriend and my mom.

the distance was longer, but the roads were familiar territory and the weather was cooler. the family is just looking out for you...
people don't understand what cyclists can dogregario
Jul 5, 2002 2:47 PM
you're not nuts at all. sounds like a fine ride. My wife and I rode our tandem yesterday 58 miles in 90 degree weather, last weekend, 73 miles in the 90's and the weekend before 73 miles in the 90's. No big deal.