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Girlfriends / Wives and Cycling(26 posts)

Girlfriends / Wives and Cyclingjose_Tex_mex
Jun 11, 2002 8:27 PM
I hear a lot of talk about people wanting to meet that hot chick on the bike. However, would you really want your wife or girlfriend to be as in to cycling as you are? This subject has been the topic of many a road ride discussion.
My opinion is that although I encourage my girlfriend to ride (I gave her my old LeMond) I would not want her to be a cycopath like me. Not only is it nice to have some time apart but I do not want to worry about her in the pace line. Imagine if we bought crashed - not good! Although, I feel bad when me and the boys wreck it's a different story.
Watcha Think?
Jun 11, 2002 9:05 PM
I started a reply, but better judgement took over.

I'm officially not touching this topic, other than to say this is a sensitive issue for me.

My wife thinks roadbike tires are too narrow- so she has a comfort bike.

She freaks out on the money I spend on gear. (Like she never goes "shopping" ?! ;) )

It didn't help that I came home a bloody mess of roadrash the other day after being clipped by a car. I initially wasn't going to tell her, but there was no avoiding it.

I avoid anything resembling "encouragement" in that department- I'm convinced nothing would offend her more (it would be like I'd imply that she "needed" the exercise... which she doesn't , but you know the drill).
what if she's too fast?rockbender
Jun 11, 2002 9:20 PM
I have to go for a ride with some of my guy friends to go at a leisurely pace!

My girlfriend and I are actually quite comparably skilled and fit, which makes for quite a pleasant ride - I consider myself lucky. The only difference is that when we ride with friends, I can handle any pace while she gets a bit frustrated when others aren't as fast as her.

Needless to say, the only time I really get into trouble is if I spend a lot of money on some new bike goody and don't get her something!
It's a matter of cost.Juanmoretime
Jun 12, 2002 1:43 AM
I would love for my wife to ride with me. The only problem is if she became as addicted as I am, I couldn't afford it. I would have to but two of everything instead of one.
My wife made me do it!davet
Jun 12, 2002 3:39 AM
My wife was the one that dragged me into the morass of bicycling madness. She used to be a marathoner until she had arthritis in her foot so bad it required surgery to fuse three bones in her foot. So she took up bicycling as a way to keep fit. Until then, my total athletic execise was using the remote to turn on the car races on SpeedVision. Anyway she shamed me into coming to the LBS with her, two years ago, to buy a pair of Schwinn 'comfort' bikes. Since then it has bee all down hill. She turned me into a bike geek. In the two years, I have bought enough bikes to start a small shop, have acquired the tools and knowlege to build and maintain the family "fleet", and have continued my search for the "perfect" bike. Our upstairs family room is our 'shop' (You don't keep bikes like that in a garage, do you?), complete with workstand, tools and parts. Just this last weekend I finished buidling a pair of Calfee Tetra Pros. My wife's bike is the cute black one.
Jealous!...Jealous, jealous, jealous!mmquest
Jun 12, 2002 9:48 AM
I got The Look when I suggested keeping my new Colnago in the dining room...
dining room?DougSloan
Jun 12, 2002 1:10 PM
You're nuts for even bringing it up. I'm not allowed ANY bike parts in the house. I'd be dead.
Poor baby-rideslikeagirl
Jun 12, 2002 1:58 PM
Just tell the missuz that a little ammonia and old toothbrush go a long ways to get out those pesky grease spots in the carpet.

We have a bike ROOM. Well, we managed to fit in the desk and computer, but believe me - it belongs to the bikes.
oh, I can't complainDougSloan
Jun 12, 2002 3:04 PM
I have lots of room in the garage. It just gets sooo hot in there in the summer (this is Fresno, you know).

Wife is big time into nesting these days. House cleaned top to bottom Monday. All carpets being cleaned today. I'm afraid to go home and walk into the house with my shoes on. A grease stain would be death.

impossible standards...mr_spin
Jun 12, 2002 7:20 AM
I ride a lot with several women, none of which is my girlfriend or wife. They are all fast, strong, very fit, and on any given day can drop me (and almost anyone else on the road) hard, and I'm no slouch on a road bike! I'm better at MTB than they are, largely because they won't do the technical stuff. They tend to dismount for logs and such, and shocks don't seem to work as well for lightweight riders.

I love riding with them. We've logged tens of thousands of miles together over the years, and dammit, I wish I could find one of my own! Unfortunately, I think my friends have left me with a near impossible standard. I like riding with them far too much, so settling for something less will be hard. It's a lot easier to go "non-cyclist!"
re: Girlfriends / Wives and Cyclingvitusdude
Jun 12, 2002 4:01 AM
I'm with you bro. I ride to escape my family. Last thing I want is any of them riding with me. Hey, I love my wife and kids. I just don't want them with me when I ride.
The good and the badVelocipedio
Jun 12, 2002 4:56 AM
My GF is a very avid cyclist, and we ride together quite often. I enjoy having a ride partner in the house, particularly since I'm a university lecturer and pretty much have May-September off.

There is a downside, of course. Her training isn't as structured as I would like mine to be and when she rides with me, she's not usually interested in doing intervals or hill work, so I end up doing a lot more rolling than I'd really like. It does make it hard to stick to a microcycle. She also doesn't really like morning rides, while I prefer riding in the morning.

She knows how much things cost. This can be a problem.

I have two extra bikes [hers] to maintain.

When the weather is crummy [rainstorms, high winds, etc.] like it has been very frequently lately, we both get equally cranky.

The upside, of course, is that she's thrilled when I buy cycling videos ["we really have to get this year's Ronde van Vlaanderen," she said the other night], she supports my racing ambitions, she really likes my ride buddies, she understood when I insisted on wearing my HRM when we had sex [it's not great exercise, actually], her tan is just as goofy as mine and I get a great view when I draft her.

As for the different training approaches, the solution has been for me to do 90 minutes of intervals or hills before a 2 1/2 hour roll with her.
The good and the badWannabe
Jun 12, 2002 5:42 AM
"she understood when I insisted on wearing my HRM when we had sex"

Oh you have GOT to be kidding! I almost spilled coffee on my desk with this one!

As far as my situation goes, I enjoy riding by myself, it allows me to structure my training as I want it. I go on a club group ride for group riding skills and an intense workout! However, I am encouraging my wife to join me on my really easy recovery days. She on her "comfort" bike, me on the mtb pulling the boy in the trailer. She wants to go and I think this will be a great opportunity for us to ride a little bit together while she won't be pressured to ride hard or feel as though I am not riding as I want to because of her.

Oh yeah, bike prices are a secret!

Cool, What did you 'get it up' to? :-o nmrwbadley
Jun 12, 2002 6:04 AM
re: Girlfriends / Wives and CyclingMiklos
Jun 12, 2002 5:32 AM
No problems here. While my wife is not into cycling nearly as heavy as I am, we do go on at least one ride together per week. WITHOUT telling her, this is my easy/recovery ride, although sometimes she works the pace up. Sometimes she will commute to work on her bicycle, which is a 26 mile round trip.

We usually do two "events" together each year. One is "Pedal the Pinchot" and the other is an "Oregon Wine Country Tour" put on by Eola Hills Winery.

Her main thing is horses. She rides/owns jumpers. We have our own indoor arena. What I'm getting at is her main hobby is much more expensive than mine, so I don't have any problem justifying any of my bicycling costs. My own cheapness is my spending holdback. I am a "bang for the buck" kind of guy.

That being said, I did just buy my wife and I new bikes, her a ZX-6R and me a ZX-12R (Kawasaki). They pedal very easily!

i encouraged my GF to ride and she broke her arm...aet
Jun 12, 2002 6:09 AM
in a crash. she is strong but has hideous bike handling skills and she had herself a real nice wreck. i leave her alone about now but she wants to start riding again. that kinda worries me cause she'll likely crash again.
yes nmDougSloan
Jun 12, 2002 6:13 AM
Wanted: female bike geek?rwbadley
Jun 12, 2002 6:15 AM
My wife has no interest in cycling. Neither does my Son, anymore. This is a double edged sword.
I wish I could get her to ride the tandem with me. I have a really cool tandem that is unfortunately just sitting.
On the other hand, she doesn't bug me about my rides.

If I come home from work, sit and relax she says "aren't you going for a ride?". At that point I will make a show of effort, like I would rather be there with her, than out for some stupid ride; but if she really wants me to go I will, just to appease her of course. ;-)

On rides there will be the occasional 'fine thang' that invites some sort of Walter Mitty fantasy. I think it is just as well to leave it that way. My wife is a keeper. At least for the last seventeen years. Even if I can't get her on the tandem. But still....

Wanted: female bike geek?DougSloan
Jun 12, 2002 6:36 AM
If I wished for a bike geek wife, I'm sure it would turn out like in Bedazzled, a deal with the devil.

Sure, she'd be a cyclist, but she'd be the one spending all our money on bike stuff, would never want children, would want to ride 150 miles every day, would want to go to every ultra race and have me crew for her, would kick my ass up every hill and then get huffy when I would drag my butt up to her while she's been waiting at the top for 15 minutes -- you get the picture.

I just know that's how it would turn out.

I suppose we can't pick S.O.'s based upon "single issues", like we can politicians.

The solution...rwbadley
Jun 12, 2002 6:52 AM
Would be to have a Harem. That way you could pick the best wife for the purpose at hand...
Please no flames ladies, only kidding of coarse!?
who could afford that? nmDougSloan
Jun 12, 2002 6:53 AM
Good point, I'd have to sell the bikes! nmrwbadley
Jun 12, 2002 7:04 AM
Hmmm...tough choice. nm ;-)rideslikeagirl
Jun 12, 2002 7:21 AM
Think of the NAG factor NMLowend
Jun 12, 2002 12:52 PM
girlfriend rides but my wife doesn't. (nm)AaronL
Jun 12, 2002 8:51 AM
re: Girlfriends / Wives and Cyclingcyclejim
Jun 12, 2002 10:47 PM
I'd be happy if I could just get my wife to understand the insane amount of money I have to spend on bike gear. Hey its better than being a drug addict right???????