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dedicating all 2002 miles to my grandmother...(9 posts)

dedicating all 2002 miles to my grandmother...JS Haiku Shop
Apr 4, 2002 6:36 AM
I lost my dearest relative in January. My paternal Grandmother passed, mostly of old age. She was my daycare and weekend sitter before I was in grade school. She remarried and moved out of state when I was in elementary school. Between the ages of 10 and 14, she and my step-Grandfather would drive many hours to pick me up and many hours back, and I'd stay my entire summer vacation with them. These are, without any reservation, my best childhood memories.

I'm at the age where many of my older relatives are passing. In the last three years, my maternal grandmother and paternal grandfather, and paternal step-grandfather have also died. Though I viewed these all as a part of life, my paternal Grandmother's loss hit especially hard. She was the sweetest, most accepting, unconditionally loving, and most gentle person I'd ever known.

My grandmother (and her first and second husbands) were deaf. I grew up signing as a second language, and--though there are no other deaf members of our family remaining--I'm raising my son to sign, as well as speak. This is something I do to expand his horizons, and also to honor my Grandmother's memory. I very much regret that he will never know her.

The question is this: I'd like to dedicate every mile I ride in 2002 to my Grandmother, including--and especially--my first double century. I'd like those I ride with and others I meet on the road to know this. Aside from an "ask me about my grandmother" bumper sticker on the seatpack, what are some good ways to do this?


Apr 4, 2002 6:53 AM
I have a "sticker picture" of my daughter on the top tube of one of my bikes. Every time I need motivation on a ride, I look down and there she is. Although other riders won't be able to see it easily when you're riding, you can show it at stops to anyone whose interest is piqued by your bumper sticker. Probably almost any photo shop can turn a regular picture into a sticker that will fit on your bike. It's nice that you're keeping her memory alive.
i was just joshin' about the bumper sticker...JS Haiku Shop
Apr 4, 2002 7:10 AM
the "bumper sticker on seatpack" was just to add a bit of levity to an otherwise pretty stone-faced post. don't think i'll actually put a bumper stucker on my seatpack. :-)

...but the picture is a good idea. i have the same--a pic of my son--taped to the stem of my mountain bike.

Uh . . . it's still early here on the west coast. ;-) (nm)mickey-mac
Apr 4, 2002 7:11 AM
How about, "All cyclists are family, even grandmas"Slipstream
Apr 4, 2002 7:08 AM
along with a favorite photo of her printed on a t-shirt? (Borrowing from Spirito's phrase.) That might get a conversation started with people that you meet.

Sorry to hear about your Grandmother. Interestingly, both my maternal grandparents were deaf & dumb. My Grandmother from birth; my Grandfather from an accident when he was very young. My Grandfather was a cabinetmaker/artist who did a lot of work for the Denver Art Musuem. I was recently told by a relative they named a room after him (Wilkens).

He was struck by a car when he was in his late forties, was totally paralyzed and spent the next 30 years totally bedridden. (Being in this state was one of my worst nightmares as a kid.) I never learned how to sign & always felt guilty about that. I commend you on teaching your son to sign.
Make a jersey with something on it!? nm MikeMike P
Apr 4, 2002 7:13 AM
Name your Bike.Len J
Apr 4, 2002 7:20 AM
When I did Alaska, there were many people doing the ride in memory of a lost loved one (It was an AIDS vaccine ride). Several people had the kind of things you are talking about including:

1. )Monster poster taking uo the entire front triangle with picture & quotes.

2.) Rear rack posters on both sides of the rear rack triangle.

3.) Smaller picture attached to top tube.

4.) Converted picture on custom made cycling jersey.

5.) Picture embossed on side of thighs of cycling shorts.

But the one I liked the best & I think elicited responses form many people:

6) One rider had thier Loved ones name Professionally painted on both sides of thier top tube. "Ask me about _____" . It piqued my curiosity, & I did ask, and he told me a wonderful series of stories that touched me deeply. It was subtle, it was classy & it spoke volumes about thier relationship.

Sorry about your loss, when the pain of loss lessens the memory will strengthen.

Apr 4, 2002 7:47 AM
have it painted on the frame.
Jersey with the sign for 'i love you'...rideslikeagirl
Apr 4, 2002 8:24 AM
and granny's name or initials.

I feel for you, JS. My Nana has been gone for almost five years now. I probably would not have survived childhood/adolesence with out her love.

My biggest regret in life will always be moving so far away from her.

I still have dreams about her, in which I hear her voice on the phone. The first time I remember thinking, in my dream, "Man, is THIS long distance!" :)

Although you won't have a voice in your dreams, hopefully you will have equally pleasant surprises of her visiting your sleep.