|A few thoughts for all...||Ahimsa|
Dec 21, 2001 5:02 PM
|First off let me say happy holidays to all of you.
Thanks to those that responded to my thread yesterday concerning my run in with...well...an idiot.
I appreciate all the suggestions. I have considered all options both legal and otherwise and have decided to keep an eye out for trouble and try to get back on track. I have entertained every possible scenario for retribution and find all of them work only in a vaccum of predictablilty. If there is one concept I have had reinforced due to this is that the world is chaotic. I could easily find this guy and "fix his wagon" that is not beyond my ability to coordinate, but the potential for me winding up in jail is too great. It would be silly to get a prison sentence while he walks free with only a severe beating.
Also it occurs to me that if I can easily find him, his friends or relatives could likely find me if they really wanted to retaliate. The last thing I need is some hillbilly war. Besides, my anger is enough that even under the best laid plan I might kill the guy in the process and that makes me just like him.
So, painful as it is, I am forced to conclude that "karma" is the only real eventual justice. That and just living better than he. Being better than he is. Yes, without a gun and a truck he is no man at all.
And specifically answered:
1)I do not feel that this was racially motivated at all.
2)He likely does not know where I live unless he has been covertly watching the neighborhood after the fact looking for me to go into a house. If he mistook me before for someone else, than I doubt he would know me from Adam in broad daylight.
3)Protective orders are not allowable in this matter for the same reason that it will never lead to charges; no witnesses, no evidence.
4)People are indeed *ssholes.
|re: A few thoughts for all...||koala|
Dec 21, 2001 5:17 PM
|Thank God your o.k. The odds of this happening again are slight but I know thats no consolation. You will feel better with time. People like him eventually get theirs at the hands of someone like themselves. No matter what you feel you must not act on it and compromise your life. I wish you all the best as you heal from this...|
|Repeat karma||Erik W|
Dec 21, 2001 5:21 PM
|If he had his tires slashed it was probably Karma form some other idiotic thing he did to someone else. Unfortunately for the guy, now he's in for more Karma. I suspect he is reaching Karma critical mass and he'll probobly just be wiped out by a meteor or something.
|I thought of your situation today...||gtx|
Dec 21, 2001 5:28 PM
|Almost got in a confrontation with a Suburban driver while riding today (why are they always Suburbans?)--@sshole pulled a typical d!ck manuever, and then promptly got stuck in traffic--I could have really f*cked with him. Then I thought about what happened to you, and to some of the other people who posted on your thread, and just rode away from it. F*ck 'em. It's not worth it.
|re: A few thoughts for all...||loop|
Dec 21, 2001 5:40 PM
Happy holiday season back at ya, my friend.
People are flawed, imperfect, and prone to fits of profound stupidity. ...But that does NOT excuse what this fool did. He was/is, no doubt, suffering in his own personal hell of self-hatred and various other afflictions (why else would one be tempted to actually kill somebody who slashed tires?!).
Perhaps it helps with the healing process to look around at the good in the world--a challenging task indeed given what has gone on in 01. Nonetheless, as you pointed out, the flood of good will and positive vibes that have come your way prove that it's not simply a two-wheel cult thing. Most people are good, and so are you.
When you feel up to it, get out and ride. Spin like a madman, push big gears, grind up hills, and above all else revel in the endorphine/pain fest that you earn. Be free and be aware of that. It's a good thing. "He" and his boorish actions can't take that away from you.
If that doesn't work, a nice new wheelset or stupid-light component will, at the very least, be a nice gesture of good will to yourself. =)
Dec 22, 2001 11:16 AM
|I am so sorry that you had to experience such a personal violation. Thank goodness you are OK. Allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling....I know that I have a different take on this as a woman and I feel more permission to acknowledge when I have been hurt. Talk to your wife about it and consider getting some brief counseling to deal with the traumatic after-effects. That way you won't be carrying this experience with you for any longer than you have to.
Good luck and happy holidays.
|re: A few thoughts for all...||DINOSAUR|
Dec 22, 2001 11:24 AM
|Retaliation is not a good course of action because it always has a reverse effect and you would get stuck with the short end of the stick (Murphy's Law).
Curious as to where you live, the cops should have in the very least documented a report of the incident and submitted it to the District Attorney for review. The police don't make the determination for prosecution. They can see down the road and have an idea that the case is weak due to a lack of an indendent witness, but in the very least a report would be on file in case anything else occurs.
I don't know what I would do in this situation as sometimes emotions take the better part of me (must be old age). Common sense would tell me to avoid this guy if possible he sounds like he doesn't have all of his marbles.
Legal action could mean a restraining order, if you are serious about this you should consult an attorney. The D.A. usually has an attorney available for consultation.
Yes, there are a lot of fruit cakes in the world. That's the reason why my 15 year old daughter has never known the pleasure of riding a bike around our neighborhood. Sad but it's only going to get worse.
I hope you resolve your problem...
|Peace on Earth, goodwill toward men||guido|
Dec 23, 2001 3:33 PM
|As we are finding out since 9-11, we can't isolate ourselves from hostility. The evil in men's minds can only be overcome by the good in men's minds. Nowhere is this more evident than in the events following the WTC shock. New Yorkers, and then all Americans, came together as never before. That guy (AA flight from Paris to Miami) with the plastic explosives in his shoe didn't have a chance. The many people who "subdued" him weren't afraid anymore, of getting hurt, even of dying. They were making the only morally appropriate response to this guy's outrage.
We simply cannot live in fear, especially those of us traveling around on bicycles. Caution, wariness, yes, but not fear. So DINOSAUR, take your daughter out riding on a nice day. It's your street, your neighborhood, take possession of it. And Ahimsa, get back out there and live life to the fullest. Realise that truly pathetic guy who got his tires slashed is surely up for something worse, and you won't have to do it.