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Got dumped (seems to be a trend), any winter riding advice?(16 posts)

Got dumped (seems to be a trend), any winter riding advice?Trekdaveb
Dec 11, 2001 10:04 PM
Hey guys. I have actually never posted here before, but am a regular visitor (what some would call a "lurker"), so here goes. I am 19 and have been in a relationship with this girl for 2 1/2 years, and have spent ALL my time with her. Anyway, she dumped me on Saturday for no apparent reason over the phone, and I am completely lost and heartbroken. The positive is that I have plenty of time to ride my 5200 which has been collecting dust for about two months, but it is only 30 degrees F here. What is the best way to layer and keep out the cold, and what is the best way to train as far as effort?

re: Got dumped (seems to be a trend), any winter riding advice?SkunkWorks
Dec 11, 2001 10:22 PM
Thin layers work best, with a windproof shell on the outside. Get a hat that covers your ears. But the real problem is feet and hands. A thin inner glove inside a larger one works best.

If your cycling shoes are tight your going to have cold feet, so don't just add more socks. Booties only help a little, and most just trap moisture. I would look for a cheap pair of bigger shoes that you can put on a thick wool sock, or if you want to spurge then the new Sidi Freeze boots look nice.
MP3 with 'I will Survive' on repeat!!! (nm)Applejuice
Dec 12, 2001 12:12 AM
re: Got dumped (seems to be a trend), any winter riding advice?koala
Dec 12, 2001 4:02 AM
Find someone who rides!
Dec 12, 2001 7:37 AM
I love my wife more than I can describe, but I don't think I would like it if she rode. When I'm on my bike, it's MY time. I focus on the road, the bike, and my body. I don't worry about work; I don't fret over the kids; I don't rehash last week's argument over the in-laws. I just get to ride.

My wife likes it too. She gets me out of the house, she hangs out with her sister, and she swears that when I get home I'm a different person. I'm not sure it would be that way if we rode together.

I guess what I am trying to say is that every person, and every relationship, is different. Don't limit yourself to just the cycling world; find someone who you love to be with, but who you also trust (and are trusted) to be without.
Good post--my wife loved it. And as for being dumped...cory
Dec 12, 2001 8:46 AM
Nice post. I read it and sort of shrugged, then showed it to my wife because I tend to feel guilty if I take too much time for riding or other fun stuff without her.
"That's what I've been telling you for 20 years," she said. "You're a different person if you don't get out for a few days." We rode together for awhile, did a couple of centuries and even tried a tandem, but my interest is much stronger than hers--she likes to bump along at 12mph watching the cows.
As for the dumping...ah, crap, it's been 30 years since the last time I got seriously dumped, and I still remember how it hurts. The good news (which you don't want to hear now and won't believe) is that it usually works out for the best. There are a lot of women out there, and I had several serious relationships and was engaged twice before I finally got married a couple of months before I turned 30. That was 27 years ago. Give it a little time.
well said. nmgtx
Dec 12, 2001 10:58 AM
You hit the nail on the headPaulCL
Dec 12, 2001 11:22 AM
My wife doesn't ride, she has no interest. Riding is MY time. My wife has actually sent me out on rides so as to "make me a nicer person". I am a different person after I ride.

Its' kind of like coming home from a tough day at work, all stressed out and having a glass of red wine. The wine just somehow takes the edge off of me, kind of smooths the waves. Beer doesn't do it, only a good red wine. So let me think about this.....the bike in good weather, wine in the cold...yeah...I like that!
re: Got dumped (seems to be a trend), any winter riding advice?UncleMoe
Dec 12, 2001 8:39 AM
Sorry for the breakup. Ride lots. It always helps me. Plus, now you have more money to spend on yourself. You are due for a selfish phase. HAve fun.

I don't know where you live, but I have found REI is a great place to find inexpensive cold weather clothing. Lots of layering options. My two biggest problems are cold toes (not the whole foot, just the toes), and my ears.

I haven't found a good solution to the toes deal. For the ears, buy something that you might wear skiing. I wider, thicker sort of headband that can cover your entire ear.

You should be able to get a good pair of full fingered gloves for $20-30. For your legs and torso, just dress in layers. Just don't go overly bulky. Bulk and riding comfort don't mix well.

If you don't have an REI near you, go online at or (closeouts). The best brand I have found is "Hind". Do a search on Hind, or "Drylete". I use the Drylete models seen in the Men's Cross Training section. URL below.

Get a 100% polyester fleece top too. They are sooo warm. The key is to wear zero cotton.

Good luck and have fun.
re: Got dumped (seems to be a trend), any winter riding advice?brider
Dec 12, 2001 9:15 AM
Getting dumped sucks. Period. Not gonna comment on that further. As for riding, you'll need to guage your own efforts. Trying to make hard efforts on cold joints is never a good idea. Very cold days should be easier riding. Might be a good time to do more (gasp!) off-road riding -- the effort is still there, but there's usually less wind chill factor involved. For gloves I suggest Lobster Claws. THe reason is that they mimic the heat retention of mittens while still allowing enough usability for road riding. Still takes a little getting accustomed to, but worth it in my book.
So, does this mean you're "available"??? ;)rollo tommassi
Dec 12, 2001 9:54 AM
sorry to hear your news; but I agree with what someone else said here about "being for the best". When you're young, it's like you'll never meet/date/breathe/fall in love again. But you will!!

so, yes, the positive is that now you have time for yourself, and your new "love", the bike. But do try to ride with others sometimes. Maybe there's a group near you that plays bike polo??

30degrees? why,,that's NOTHING!! ;) My record is Negative 30 air temp. Rode about 5 blocks to the coffee shop before my genes froze.

Everyone elses' posts about layering were perfect; and no, no one knows how to keep feet warm!

As for "effort", gauge it by how long you can stand the cold (1-2hrs?) and not entirely by HR or mileage. Above all, have fun, hopefully you'll have snow. that's a lot of fun for handling skills!
thanks for posting!
I agree on the "gauge"UncleMoe
Dec 12, 2001 11:11 AM
When it is cold, most of us are just plain slower. Add some darkness to that equation and it is even worse. I just want to burn off some winter fat and keep in somewhat decent shape. Winter riding is a time to simply enjoy with no expectations on any sort of stats.
Thanks for the replies and adviceTrekdaveb
Dec 12, 2001 9:56 AM
Thanks for the info and advice. It helps to hear words of encouragement even from total strangers through times like this, and it is greatly appreciated. I rode about 30 miles yesterday and dang near froze to death, so i am looking forward to trying some of your tips and logging some base miles for the season.

Thanks again,
Good luck staying warm in that weather!cioccman
Dec 12, 2001 11:12 AM
Just a little advice. Have a good time in your youth. I'm an old dude (around 35ish). Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, drank it and burned it. Nothing can replace the youthful and crazier years (19-30ish) once they're gone. Enjoy singleness. Have 100 girlfriends. The ones my age that have regrets are the ones that got hard core hooked up at 21/22. They are now divorced and trying to regain something that is gone forever. This is not to say there are not plenty of people that are happier living life that way, however, I just don't know many. Once you get that sorta thing out of your system, an entirely new and rewarding and satisfying type of life experience opens post 30ish. Good luck and have fun.
Dinner, HELL NO!........New chain, HELL YES!James
Dec 12, 2001 5:34 PM
Try riding your feelings out, it helps me deal with stuff more clear. Climb that hill faster thinking about how much it pisses you off! As far as clothing, A good pair of full fingered gloves, shoe cover, and a newspaper under the front of your spandex does the trick(keps the tummy warn).
Welcome to Hell My Friend!!! =)BigLeadOutGuy
Dec 12, 2001 6:19 PM
I guess you read my story and had the same thing going on too! Sometimes life just stinks....but what can ya do? Just keep your head up and ride away your anger...thats what I do.
Well if it makes you feel any better...I used to live in southern california and I now live in the cold northeast...Ive been here for about a year and the winters here are just waaaaaaaay too cold...I just cant ever seem to get the chill out of my bones =(
I put on as much clothes as possible and I make sure i ride as hard as I can to make sure i keep warm....winter riding is the worst...cant wait to get back home to california =)