|Vote: What would you do?||Flying Burrito Bros.|
Nov 29, 2001 11:21 AM
|Assume this scenario:
You buy an expensive bike on the sly and the wife is going to be pissed if she finds out.
What do you do?
1. Tell her and beg for mercy
2. Hope she never finds out
3. "Pull a Elephantino" and try to hatch some harebrained scheme.
|re: Vote: What would you do?||surf|
Nov 29, 2001 11:50 AM
|just lie about the price, she will never know. Just as long as you did not charge it. No begging and she will never find out.|
|My wife went into my wallet one day after I was in bed. She||bill|
Nov 29, 2001 11:59 AM
|wanted to lift $20 from me to be able to park at work the next day or something (I truly don't think that she was snooping -- she's more than willing to nab $20 surreptitiously, but that's about it). |
Anyway, at about 4 a.m., she finally woke me up. She said, tearfully, "Why do you have $600 in cash in your wallet?"
At 4 a.m., I was kind of at a loss for a cover story. I caved like a Frenchman to a Nazi. I had been building a slush fund to buy a bike from found money here and there (you know, expense checks, the odd $20 here and there, that sort of thing), and I was taking the money to work to place in our safe until I had enough to buy the bike.
Well, she was so glad that the explanation was metal and grease as opposed to flesh and blood (I guess she was worried that I was carrying the cash to pay for the nooner suites), that she forgot to get mad about the bike.
It's a year later, I've got the bike, and NOW she's mad.
Nov 29, 2001 12:01 PM
|I told mine about my new purchase and then quickly added that I was going to sell my current bike to cover the costs. She seemed O.K. after a few hours. I could never sell my trusty Colnago, however, so I'm going to hide it at work for 6 months, smear some mud on it and bring it home as a new "trainer". The problem then is lying about my current trainer. It never ends....|
|HAHAHAHAHA! Indeed! nm||scottfree|
Nov 29, 2001 12:21 PM
|re: Vote: What would you do?||Wait til she splurges|
Nov 29, 2001 12:33 PM
|on something big like my wife did. She'd been harping about the size of her diamond ring and no 10 yr anniversary ring, so she made her anniversary and b'day present a nice anniversary ring. I was planning on a new bike after 15 yrs on the old one and blew my original $1,000 -$1,250 bike budget on a ti Airborne bike complete with the Ultegra group instead of the 105 I thought I was originally was going to settle for. We won't even go into the Odyssey minivan she went off and bought without my knowing about it.|
|Here's what I think||mr_spin|
Nov 29, 2001 1:12 PM
|Your wife would have to be pretty dumb to not notice that you bought an expensive bike. Maybe she is, but I doubt it. You wouldn't be doing it on the sly if she were.
You might as well buy two of those expensive bikes. That way, at least you get to keep one in the settlement.
|With only those options...?||MrCelloBoy|
Nov 29, 2001 1:29 PM
Then trade for the curtain! Or the bag in Monte's hand!
It's much better to be mated to a biker babe who out-spends you on single bikes then suggests getting a Calfee Tandem instead of the trip to Ireland. (This is a true story!) I'd post the photo, but some folks are getting bored with it.
|2 proven methods||KStone|
Nov 29, 2001 1:34 PM
Borrow a beater bike from the LBS and try to get one the same color as the new bike you will be getting. When you bring the beater home tell her it's a bargain bike from the used bike rack and you only paid $( any amount you know she'll accept). After she's used to seeing it in the garage for awhile. swap it out for that dream bike!
A bike looks like a bike only when it's together... bring that new bike home in pieces!!! That's why those skewers are called quick release! Bring home only the wheels...leave the frame at a friends, at work, in your trunk. Mix and match both methods.Be creative here. Hang a beater frame in the garage for awhile...then...
|re: Vote: What would you do?||OJ|
Nov 29, 2001 3:13 PM
|Just slap her in the mouth and tell her to deal with it.|
Nov 30, 2001 6:09 PM
|I think I am more in your camp than those who would behave like frightened little boys, hiding from their mommy's wrath -yet a slap in the mouth is not required, nor is it satisfying. When I buy new expensive stuff I warn the wife a couple of weeks early that there will be a shortage of money for bills. I take my money and buy my stuff. This ain't rocket science! Yes, I try to work with her a bit if I can, and yes I "suffer" (yeah-huh) dirty looks for a couple of days, but I let that be her problem. E-Z. |
|Buy her something of about the same price...||Bruno|
Nov 29, 2001 4:00 PM
|When I bought my bike I also bought her a Cartier watch. She never said anything about the bike.|
|Depends on the wife, I suppose....||Starliner|
Nov 29, 2001 6:42 PM
|You all ought to consider having a monthly personal allowance based upon your income(s). For the wife and for you. This way, you can simply tell her that you've spent months saving your allowance in anticipation of the big purchase, which you've just rolled into the living room. If she is reasonable (that might be a stretch with some), then you likely are home free.
If you like, you can embellish your purchase by suggesting to her that it will contribute to your good health and a young, vibrant physique, and that perhaps she might find a new bike useful for achieving the same goal for herself.....
|I was ignoring this thread...||Ahimsa|
Nov 29, 2001 7:54 PM
|But I just can't stand it anymore...
Don't you people have any kind of cooperative, supportive, or at least communicative relationship with your wives?
My wife knows my passions and supports them for the most part. I feel the same way about her loves. We would never find ourselves in a situation where one would have to decieve the other concerning a major purchase only to beg forgiveness later.
That is just plain ridiculous. Unless of course you live on a TV sound stage and hear canned laughter every time you crack wise. Sheesh!
It sounds to me like you are a poorly matched couple trapped in an adversarial cohabitation with weird creepy "mother and son" overtones.
Start vocalizing what you want instead of wasting your breath apologizing. Offer real options for how you could obtain the bike and get her input. If you stress that this is important to you and would make you happy somehow then she may understand it better as opposed to trying to quantify the love of cycling to a non-cyclist.
My wife would know I wanted a certain bike long before I bought it because we would talk about it and work it out. Reasonable requests are easy to accomodate this way.
And we have seperate accounts as well. Why anyone would do otherwise is beyond me. Excepting of course where one spouse stays home and doesn't work.
|Good call, but Bruno's last post is pretty damn funny.||Leisure|
Nov 30, 2001 5:57 AM
|I was ignoring this thread...||John-d|
Nov 30, 2001 7:21 AM
|I agree with you entirely. They must be a sad lot.
My wife, total non cyclist - big Lance Armstrong fan, does not go to work but she has her own account financed with OUR money.
When I wanted my new Cannondale R500 for my retirement present to my-self she came to the LBS with me and suggested the R800 I now own.
|I felt the exact same way as I read these posts.||nigel|
Nov 30, 2001 8:14 AM
|Ahimsa, you're 100% EXACTLY right, and I'll back you to the end about this one.
My wife knew I'd been LUSTING after my present bike for a long time before I actually put down money for it (after searching EVERYWHERE for my size). She was behind me 1000%, and even made some calls to Canadian bike shops that sold Giants from work for me (we live in NYC). Could we really afford the bike? NO. Did she acknowledge that I NEEDED a new bike (or I'd have to put a few hundred dollars of work/parts into my rusting old steel bike)? Hell yeah. She knew how happy I'd be on that bike, and we agreed that we'd both have to "live lean" for a WHILE for me to get it, but that it'd be well worth it. No questions asked.
If the roles were reversed, the outcome would be the same. Not bragging here, but I've always wondered about so many "marriages" where people don't seem MARRIED at all--giving each other grief about this or that, like hanging out with "da guyz" or "the girls," etc. The spouse should be like a best friend, and one who supports you, is true to you, will stand by you, has your interests in mind. Shouldn't all marriages be this way?
People really need to get REAL for a change.
Good work, Ahimsa.
P.S. I loved the "wierd creepy 'mother and son overtones'" bit; too true, sad to say.
|I was ignoring this thread...||bi_psyclist|
Nov 30, 2001 6:41 PM
|You have it all wrong. You could be spending even more money and pissing her off. Why don't you get into collecting classics. The first time you feast your eyes on a all NR Legnano your misguided urges for maritial compromise will be conquered. Then you are a real bike lover.|
|re: Vote: What would you do?||raboboy|
Nov 30, 2001 5:55 AM
|I'd buy her an expensive bike too! Guess I am lucky in that my wife enjoys the bike as much as I. :)|
|Pulling an Elephantino (sic) ...||Elefantino|
Nov 30, 2001 7:30 AM
|An adjustment of the scenario is necessary.
Let's say the wife is NOT pissed. Let's say she says, "If it's something you really want, that's OK. It's your Christmas present."
So just add "make sure you're doing it around the holidays" to your scenario.
|re: Vote: What would you do?||Pegasus|
Nov 30, 2001 8:17 AM
|I'm the wife and the one who rides in our marriage. A few years ago I bought my husband a Cannondale 500 for Christmas trying to get him into riding. It was a little nicer than my trek and ever since then I wanted to upgrade. This summer I went looking and bought a litespeed tuscany. My husband has no idea how much it costs and I'm very grateful that he didn't ask. It stood in the garage for two weeks before he noticed it.
We have separate accounts. He pays the bills and gives me an allowance for household plus I have my own part time jobs. I saved the money and figured it was mine to spend on what I like. He doesn't ask me about every purchase he makes either. I know he knows what we can afford and doesn't spend money foolishly.