's Forum Archives - General

Archive Home >> General(1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 )

Not about the bike..personal stuff..flame on..yada.yada.yada(16 posts)

Not about the bike..personal stuff..flame on..yada.yada.yadacycleguy
Oct 21, 2001 4:33 PM
I have said before that I find this one of the best places to find inspiration and an uplifting. Yet also somewhere to get flamed when being stupid, or as some would say fredish. Perhpas, because of the the fact that most of us will never meet each other, yet it allows one to be brutally honest and not be hurtfull. And still allows those who wish to hurt, not be held accountable. :)

So my non bike, it's all about me, delemma. And I will follow my heart no matter what ya'll say. It's just a poll kinda.

I'm over 50 and widowed. Did everything backwards with my late wife yet we managed to overcome all of the garbage we both brought into our relationship and still managed to somehow find what really matters. I've now met someone who, in the span of one month, has brought me to a place I did not know was possible, available, etc. etc. I was going to say I won't bore anyone with all the stuff I really feel but maybe I will. She's brought into my life a joy and feeling I did not know was still there. I think of her 24-7 When I'm with her all of my fears, failures, short comings, etc., roll off me like water on a duck. In her arms my life takes on a meaning I have not known before or dreamed of. I find myself doubled over when I think of never again being in her arms. I did everything wrong in my last relationship and it work out great. I want to do everthing right in this one and dream of what will be!! :)

Like the most beautiful rose one may see. You want to cut it and bring it home to enjoy. Yet you still want to enjoy it's natural beauty. To see each pedal as it opens, revealing it's natural and true beauty. Just as I want this relationship to also reveal it's beauty. Slowly, in its own way.

I have not said anything here I have not already shared with this women of my dreams. As the song says and I have promised myself to never let happen. "letters his heart forgot to send".

I just wanted tell the world of my joy and ask what would you do? And say thanks for letting me rant. :)
I think it's called LOVE *nm*nm
Oct 21, 2001 4:40 PM
Good for you!Canada
Oct 21, 2001 5:09 PM
My Dad died 18 years ago. My Mom never met anyone else that
she felt that way about. She's 65, active has friends and seems happy but I would have liked to seen her meet a nice guy.
Good for you!
Only d1cks would flame you...good on you. Hope she rides.matt
Oct 21, 2001 5:14 PM
follow your heartDog
Oct 21, 2001 5:36 PM
Follow your heart. It usually knows best.

The way I live? I ask myself, what would be my regrets on my deathbed, and then I try to avoid those things. If you'll regret not following this, then go for it.

The heart if fragile, though. Anytime you give up a part of yourself you are vulnerable. But that's what makes life worth living. Certainties are no fun. Some risk is what it's all about; without it, you're not alive.

Somethings were meant to be...DINOSAUR
Oct 21, 2001 6:12 PM
You already know what to do, follow your heart. Somethings were meant to be, it's called destiny.

God bless,
Somethings were meant to be...Jon
Oct 21, 2001 6:30 PM
You are SOOOO fortunate. You are right now in a state of grace! Go with it.
That's easy. Just keep on doin' what you're doin.' **LAIrish
Oct 21, 2001 7:05 PM
You're a lucky man! nm.javagenki
Oct 21, 2001 7:48 PM
Oct 21, 2001 8:25 PM
Terrific to hear your feelings for her. Been through a few twitter-pations myself since my divorce six years ago, and your account of yours sounds wonderfully familiar.

You ask advice on what to do? Firstly and most importantly, enjoy the moment while you have it. However, make sure to set down an imaginary anchor from your first chakra (your loins) to the center of the earth, in order to keep your Being from flying too far away from your Body during this very vulnerable time. You must protect yourself from crashing down and getting hurt just in case things eventually go sour (always remember, anything's possible). The first time for me, I flew so high, I crashed and burned when reality struck me down. Took me a year to move on. Next time I kept myself grounded as advised, still had intense time, but when time came to split, the fall wasn't so bad - just a few bruises and a week or two of mourning. Bounced back and moved on with my life just fine.

Take care of yourself, be good to yourself, and love yourself. If you can manage to do all of that, then you'll be an attractive, healthy man capable of sharing that love with another. Seek, and you shall find.
re: Not about the bike..personal stuff..flame on..yada.yada.yadamorey
Oct 22, 2001 3:14 AM
If she makes you feel like that, she is definitely the one.
That's great and all, but can she climb???nm
Oct 22, 2001 5:15 AM
You already have the answer...Tig
Oct 22, 2001 5:24 AM
The answer is already in you. It depends on if you want to take a look there and see it or not. You just have to decide to take the risk, or to stay safe and protected (just existing). Don't wait until you are "ready". Once you really know that she is the right one, everything somehow just works out. Not that there won't be bumps in the road, but you know what I mean. Good luck!
A view from a distanceMikeC
Oct 22, 2001 9:43 AM
First of all, Cycleguy, I'm genuinely happy for you. I'm a bit younger than you, so I hesitate giving advice, but here goes anyway...
When I was an assistant in a college dorm, I used to hear all sorts of "desperate-and-in-love" stories from the most unlikely guys. Football players, musicians, studs, nerds, the lot.
The biggest issue always came down to mutuality. It seemed that one person always wanted the other more than they were wanted themselves. Then a couple of things often happened. The one who was MOST in love felt hurt and frustrated when they sensed a lack of reciprocity. And the one who was LESS in love devalued the other even more when he or she realized (subconsciously) that they were in "control."
So my only advice is very unromantic. Try to move at the same speed as your lover. If you don't, you'll end up breaking the tie that binds you.
Good luck, guy!
Oct 22, 2001 10:38 AM
Enjoy it to the max. Take risks, be honest, and pick yourself up if you crash, but don't be afraid to ask for help. It's a complex thing and no one has really figured it out, except what works for them. Just keep living, loving, and learning.
re: Not about the bike..personal stuff..flame on..yada.yada.yadaHYPERON
Oct 22, 2001 5:27 PM
You state "I'm over 50 and widowed."
Have you considered marrying a bicycle ?

A Pinarello Prince comes to mind. How about it ?
I know someone who can wed a man to a bike.

The Pinarello Prince shall bring into your life a joy and feeling you did not know was still there.

When you grip the handlebars, your fears, failures, short comings, etc., will roll off you like water on a duck. In the saddle your life takes on a meaning you have not known before or dreamed of. You'll find yourself doubled over when you think of never again being in the saddle. You did everything wrong in your last relationship with a bike and it did not work out great. You want to do everthing right in this one buy getting married to a bicycle and dream of what will be a Pinarello Prince!! :)