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Send the family away for a day(10 posts)

Send the family away for a daymike mcmahon
Apr 27, 2001 6:27 PM
Let me start this post by saying that I love my wife and two kids more than anything in the world. With that said, I highly recommend that every cyclist who has a "significant other" and kids send them away for a day or two. Yesterday morning, my wife and her sister left the house with our kids. They dropped the kids off at my parents' house and went to Rosarito in Baja California. I took the day off work today. First, I went and rode with my old clubmates, most of whom I haven't seen for at least two years. I got back, cooked and ate a big breakfast, and headed for the garage. After putting on a couple of CDs, I started working on the bikes: hours of uninterrupted time alone with them doing long-neglected maintenance. Then I took a shower and plugged "A Sunday in Hell" into the VCR and watched it without any distractions. I also had time to check the board throughout the day. They'll be back in about two hours and I'm really looking forward to seeing them. However, it sure was nice to have a day to ride a bike, work on bikes, watch a movie about bikes, and read and write about bikes.
re: Send the family away for a daylook271
Apr 27, 2001 6:34 PM
I usually can't get them to leave for a day,(I really would miss them!), but several times I get to have them go visit relatives across town for 1/2 a day or so.I know what you mean; the peace and quiet and the ability to do any damn thing you please is refreshing!
Make sure you send yourself and the kids away too!nancy
Apr 27, 2001 6:43 PM
I completely agree that every person w/a family needs that alone time. My husband and I only have one child so it seems it's a bit easier to accomplish. I'm a cyclist and my husband a dirt biker. Many weekends he'll go off on Sat. w/his buds and I'll ride on Sun. w/my buds. Having an escape day is amazing in regards to the renewal of the soul. Maybe your wife's escape is something different, but be sure to give her a day, too. I agree it works wonders! While I can escape on a ride, however, having alone time at home is a true premium for a woman (especially if she is the primary caregiver to the children). I have to pull teeth to get time alone in our home. From a female perspective, I tell my husband he can do wonders with your love life if he can find some outings w/our daughter so I can have some alone time in our own home. It's amazing how things change from the single days, 'eh!
No doubtmike mcmahon
Apr 27, 2001 6:58 PM
I didn't feel guilty about my time alone, knowing that my wife and her sister were on the beach having a margarita while I was in the garage with the bikes. Also, I recently sent her off to the day spa for massage, facial, etc. I'm off to make some popcorn and enjoy my last hour alone watching the Dodger game; it's important to make time for something other than cycling. ;-)
How's this?tommyb
Apr 27, 2001 6:59 PM
This summer, my lovely bride and our two kids are going to grandma's for two whole weeks, leaving lonely ole' me by myself at home. Yeah, I'll miss 'em, but those two weeks will likely be half of my entire summer mileage. I can't take off for two weeks, but I'll take the kids camping for a long weekend this fall so my wife can get her 'restore sanity' time.
post more topics like this, so more peopleMade in Taiwan
Apr 27, 2001 8:52 PM
post more topics like this so me and other single people will stay single. too many people married for the wrong reason (not that you did) and are too immature to handle it. i plan to work (teach music) and ride my bike and tune my car for the rest of my life.... who needs wife and kids :)
A little selfish pleasuretommyb
Apr 27, 2001 9:03 PM
I most definitely need my wife and kids. If you can find a complete life among your pursuits, great for you. I for one would be very incomplete without my family. The trick is finding a partner who understands how much you need her, and how much you need for yourself. And then you have to reciprocate.

Besides, the slightly guilty feeling of going for a long ride, taking a longer than normal shower, then sitting in your underwear and eating in front of the TV, when you know this would not normally be tolerated, makes it much better than if it's an everyday occurrence.
I think you missed the pointmike mcmahon
Apr 27, 2001 9:42 PM
It wasn't intended to encourage lifelong bachelorhood. Having 24 hours of time alone was very nice. However, all of the bikes and bike rides I've had in my life combined mean less than one trip to the park with my daughter. I don't know how old you are, but when I was in my 20s, I also asked "who needs a wife and kids". You may surprise yourself someday and end up happily married with kids. I've found nothing in life that's more rewarding than the relationship I have with my family. And knowing several couples who desperately want children but cannot have them makes me appreciate it even more. Nothing beats opening the door of the house after a nice ride and hearing my daughter yelling "DADDY! DADDY!" I can't wait until my six month old son is old enough to join in.
I couldn't agree more...(nm)look271
Apr 28, 2001 6:10 PM
Thanks!! My first kid is on the way...DT
Apr 29, 2001 8:42 AM
...and my wife keeps telling me how much my lifestyle is about to change. For the past 4 years, she's been awesome about telling me to get out of the house and go for a ride. She knows how much I need to do it, and she's great about getting me the time to do it. I see some friends who call at 4 and say they can go for a ride, but their wife wants them back at 5, and I realize how fortunate I am. You know what else helps...getting a tandem! My wife swore for the longest time she'd never get into cycling, never wear lycra, never EVER have her damn feet locked into the pedals (No way!!) and in February we bought a tandem and she LOVES it! It's great because we can go the same speed, one that makes me happy, and she's doing all the things she always said she'd never do, including the clipless! 2 months later we found out she was pregnant and the doc told her to stop riding (high risk pregnancy) and she's really bummed. But, we're going to get right back into it in about 9 months. And it just adds to my mileage. 100 miles/week with her, 150 with my buddies...we all win!